There are two experiences.

The first

My son passed over two months ago. The morning of the wake my sister came over and said "I have something to tell you. Last night I was in bed praying for Dustin (my son) to let me know that he was okay. My eyes were closed but suddenly he appeared to me. He was beautiful and lit up. He bowed his head and I knew that he was going to tell me something about you. He had on a white robe and there was light all around him. He was light. He said "Aunt Vicki, tell my Mom I'm natural light." I was stunned. It was as close to a religious experience as I've ever had. However, I don't know what he meant by that."

I told her "I know what he meant. About three days before he died, I was sitting in the library at my house. It was a rainy day and I was sitting by the window, the only source of light, staring out. Dustin came and sat near me, on the couch. He reached over to turn the light on and I said No, Dust, I like natural light. Natural light is good. My son just sort of smiled at me. It was just a moment between a son and his mother and there was no one else home at the time."

I did not tell anyone about that conversation. There was no need to. It was insignificant at the time. For him to come and tell my sister that, was perfect. Had he come and told me that, I may have doubted that I'd seen him, thinking my mind was playing tricks. But he told the person closest on earth to me, so that the experience could be validated, using my exact words that no one else knew about.

2nd Experience

10 years ago, I was stunned by the sudden death of a man who had just asked me to marry him. He was a commercial diver and he was killed two days after his proposal, while working.

About a month after he died, I was home alone in the middle of the day, laying on my bed upstairs and just crying my eyes out. The telephone rang. I had a phone right by my bed and I got off the bed and answered it. A voice said "Valerie". I said "Mony!" She said "You get up out of that bed right now, do you understand me?" And I replied "Yes Mony". I couldn't believe it. It was my grandmother who had passed on 8 months earlier. Her voice sounded far away, but clear as a bell. The phone did not go dead, it just sort of crackled. I was dumbfounded. I was standing there with the phone in my hand just staring at it. There was no way anyone could have seen me. I was upstairs and the bed was not visible to anyone through a window or anywhere. No one could know I was in bed crying and grieving. And it was definitely my grandmother. What was funny was that she said something very typical of her and her personality. When I was little she used to call me the brave soldier. She was the type of person that would say that you needed to get up and march in life or life would just leave you behind.

Was this experience difficult to express in words? 

No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?         

Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:  

As above, my sister said that my son's communication was through thought, with no mouth speaking. She said it was hard to describe. Not like communication on earth. But it was clear and she heard it as surely as any of us hear.  

With my grandmother, it was clear as day. Just like a normal phone conversation.

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? 

See above

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?          

Both times the voices were those of the deceased. No difference from when they were alive.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?          

Absolutely not.

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?           

Absolutely not

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?           

No

Did you see the deceased?        

Yes

By my son, as above. He was himself, but more beautiful and lit. My sister had a feeling of indescribable joy.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Himself but lit with light.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       All of him.

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       My son was the age that he had died.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            No infirmities before he died. He was just beautiful.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?     

No

How long did the experience last?       

With my son, maybe 10 seconds. With my grandmother, a little longer

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        

Sudden on both.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

Yes

With my son, he was happy. It was joy. With my grandmother it was authoritative just as she was in this life.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? 

Please see above. My son was letting us know he was fine.

My grandmother was telling me to get on with my life here.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          

Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:         

They were as real as I am sitting here now. So if they weren't real than neither is this.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?  

No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          

The fist experience with my son was intense joy.  With my grandmother I was stunned.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          

Yes

Yes there was healing but at the same time, it makes it difficult to stay and participate on this earth. All of the things that we do here just seem so useless and stupid. Money, time all of it just isn't real. I am tired of being here and just want to go home.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?     

Knowing that no one really dies was the best. Having to deal with the utter bullshit on this earth is the worst.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?        

Yes

            Describe:     

Again, just really sad that I have to be here on this earth, dealing with things that don't seem to mean much.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

I believe that it is more possible to tap in to other realities and intend to try via meditation and prayer.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?           

Yes

There is so much more than all of the stuff that goes on here on earth. Just tired of earth. Tired of malls and bills and material things. Just bewildered of this reality here.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?       

No

But I have been thinking about it lately and wish to do so.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         

No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?           

Elation for both.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          

Yes

One happened to my sister but is related to me i.e. my son

The other one with my grandmother happened to me alone

Did you see a light?          

Yes, My son was light but he was himself.

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes

Some people think I'm crazy or just made it up. Some people seem stunned by it. A couple of my son's friends have started their own spiritual journeys due to many such conversations that we have had.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  

Yes

E mailed someone who said they were writing a book, but have never heard back from the.

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?      

I find that it is more and more difficult to care about what happens here on this earth. I certainly care about love and being good, but am very tired and just don't want to be here anymore, although I would never kill myself, as I believe that it is a broken contract with God.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?              

Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.   

It is a very good questionnaire

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Second Submission

I have submitted two ADC's prior to this. This is the first from my son to me, other than signs and synchronicities that were definitely him communicating. This was an experience.

For the two and one half months since my son died, I have been praying and preparing myself mentally for him to come to me. I know he will come again. I was in bed sleeping and yet I was conscious of myself when this happened. I felt my body or my essence lift (this is very hard to explain as I have never felt this in my life) and at the same time, I was my son and felt my son. Who he is and his emotions and his being. It is very difficult to explain. It was so stunning that I shot up in bed, hit my husband and gasped "It's happening". And then I began to acknowledge out loud to my son that "Dustin I acknowledge what just happened, I feel you, I am grateful to you, please don't let them stop" and so on. I WAS STUNNED. I HAVE NEVER FELT ANYTHING LIKE THAT IN MY LIFE AND COULD NOT HAVE IMAGINED SUCH A KNOWING IN MY WILDEST DREAMS. How does one explain such a thing. I was him as he was me. He gave himself to me with his very essence. This is very difficult to explain. I am waiting for him to come to me again.

Was this experience difficult to express in words? 

Yes

It was something not of this world. It was a knowing and a feeling. It was part of me. I don't know how to explain it.

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?           

Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?         

No

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? 

I had a knowing that was beyond a shadow of a doubt. I felt his essence and his being stronger than I have ever felt my own. It was incredible.

             Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?          

No. See above

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?  

No.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?           

Yes

I felt him, but I felt who he was. It was not a physical touch, but it was kind of electric but not really. This is very difficult to explain. I was stunned. Once you experience this, you know.

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?  

It was him; who he is from his very essence.

            Was anything communicated by the touch? 

Yes, the essence of his being. He was not unhappy, but it was very intense.

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? 

Absolutely not.

Did you see the deceased?        

No

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            I did not see him. I was him.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       Didn't see him.

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       Not applicable.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            Not applicable.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           I didn't see him. I was him. I felt the essence of his being. It was very strong.

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?     

No

How long did the experience last?       

A second or two. I shot up as soon as it happened for it was extremely intense.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        

Very sudden. There was a lift and a knowing. But you don't doubt anything after such an experience.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

Yes

I felt the essence of his being. This is the most difficult thing that I have ever had to describe in my life.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? 

He gave me a great gift of knowing. Knowing that he, who he is, still exists. Although I knew that already, I actually felt who he is.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          

Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:         

That was more real than this. It is a knowing beyond description.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?  

No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          

I felt him. Who he is. His essence. He was not unhappy therefore neither was I.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          

Uncertain

I need more from him.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?     

The best was feeling him and the worst is that I want more.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?        

Yes

            Describe:     

I want more.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes

In a way. I believe in God and life after death but have never felt what I felt last night. Honestly it was a little confusing because it is so very different than us here on earth. It is impossible to comprehend unless it happens to you. And you still can't explain it properly to others. You can't explain a knowing.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?           

Yes

As above. We humans are just so inadequate. How incredibly limited we are. That was the most intense experience of my life and it was not of this world.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         

No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?           

Stunned. Happy. Grateful. Disbelief that such intensity could exist.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          

Uncertain

My husband saw me shoot up and then I hit him on the leg and said "It's happening" and then began to speak out loud to my son.

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  

Uncertain

I can only say how long it lasted because of MY beginning and end. My son's essence was timeless. This is very hard to explain.

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?   

Yes

How does one describe the essence of another's being. I can't explain this properly.

Did you become aware of future events?      

No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         Uncertain,

Not yet!

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?    

Yes

I felt a lifting and simultaneously I felt the essence of my son's being.

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?         

No

Did you see a light?          

No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?           

No

Have you shared this experience with others?        

Yes

People in my family are very open to these things. We are very intuitive and in some cases psychic.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  

No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?      

Has anyone else felt such a thing? I would love to hear from them. My email address is vvillars@bellsouth.net.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?        

No,

There is nothing that can reproduce that.

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?          

Yes,

I have left my body in dreams I think, but this was a lifting. I can't explain.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?              

Yes, This is such a great website.

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.   

It's fine.