A boy I had dated, once or twice, appeared in my dream urging me to take his hand. Promised my life would be happy and safe.

I refused.

The following morning I was told his car drove into a river and he drowned.

I often wonder what would have happened if I had taken his hand.

One source I went to was certain I was his last thought.

At the time of your experience was there an associated life-threatening event?   No 

Was the experience difficult to express in words?  No    

At what time during the experience were you at your highest level of consciousness and alertness?      During the dream.

How did your highest level of consciousness and alertness during the experience compare to your normal everyday consciousness and alertness?      More consciousness and alertness than normal   It wasn't an ordinary dream. Very real.

Please compare your vision during the experience to your everyday vision that you had immediately prior to the time of the experience.   I don't know how to answer this.

Please compare your hearing during the experience to your everyday hearing that you had immediately prior to the time of the experience.   Normal

Did you see or hear any earthly events that were occurring during a time that your consciousness / awareness was apart from your physical / earthly body?   No  

What emotions did you feel during the experience?   Suspicious and adamantly refused his hand.  

Did you pass into or through a tunnel?   No  

Did you see an unearthly light?   No  

Did you seem to encounter a mystical being or presence, or hear an unidentifiable voice?   No

Did you encounter or become aware of any beings who previously lived on earth who are described by name in religions (for example: Jesus, Muhammad, Buddha, etc.)?   No  

Did you encounter or become aware of any deceased (or alive) beings?   Yes   I did not know he was deceased. A boy I dated once or twice in high school.

Did you become aware of past events in your life during your experience?   No  

Did you seem to enter some other, unearthly world?   No

Did time seem to speed up or slow down?   No

Did you suddenly seem to understand everything?   No

Did you reach a boundary or limiting physical structure?   No

Did you come to a border or point of no return?   I came to a definite conscious decision to return to life
I simply wasn't ready to leave.

Did scenes from the future come to you?  No 

During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness suggesting that there either is (or is not) continued existence after earthly life (“life after death”)?   Yes   After analyzing it the next day there has to be continued existence for him to appear and speak to me. He looked normal, no signs he had drowned.

During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that God or a supreme being either does (or does not) exist?   No  

During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that you either did (or did not) exist prior to this lifetime?   No  

During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that a mystical universal connection or unity/oneness either does (or does not) exist?   Yes   The fact he came to me in his death, but oh course I did not realize it at the time.

During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding earthly life’s meaning or purpose?   No  

During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding earthly life’s difficulties, challenges, or hardships?   Yes   He apparently wanted to save me from life's difficulties.

During your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding love?   No  

During your experience, did you encounter any other specific information / awareness that you have not shared in other questions that is relevant to living our earthly lives?   No  

Did you have a sense of knowing special knowledge or purpose?   No  

What occurred during your experience included:   Content that was both consistent and not consistent with the beliefs you had at the time of your experience   I believed in earth bound spirits and there is a God. But this experience didn't line up completely with my beliefs.

How accurately do you remember the experience in comparison to other life events that occurred around the time of the experience?   I remember the experience more accurately than other life events that occurred around the time of the experience   There were more deaths after this event which I knew before I was told of the individuals involved. But there was not a dream visit that I remember. I just knew.

Discuss any changes that might have occurred in your life after your experience:   None I'm aware of.

My experience directly resulted in:   Unknown

Did you have any changes in your values or beliefs after the experience that occurred as a result of the experience?   Uncertain   When I think of it I find it troubling.

Do you have any psychic, non-ordinary or other special gifts after your experience that you did not have before the experience?   No  

Are there one or several parts of your experience that are especially meaningful or significant to you?     That he apparently felt a stronger emotion toward me than I what I thought.

Have you ever shared this experience with others?   Yes  I really don't remember.

Did you have any knowledge of near death experience (NDE) prior to your experience?   No  

What did you believe about the reality of your experience shortly (days to weeks) after it happened:   Experience was definitely real   It was real more than a dream.

What do you believe about the reality of your experience at the current time:   Experience was definitely real   It has remained so vivid as compared to other experiences.

Have your relationships changed specifically as a result of your experience?      No

Have your religious beliefs/spiritual practices changed specifically as a result of your experience?   No  

At any time in your life, has anything ever reproduced any part of the experience?   No  

Is there anything else that you would like to add about your experience?   No

Did the questions asked and information that you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?   Yes   As I said before it was very real not dream-like and it hasn't faded from my memory.