Silvia G's
ADC
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Last week I wished Carol a Happy Birthday out loud (since I live alone now)...I told her how I would never stop loving her and I was glad she was born. I've been concerned lately about a dream I had a week before her birthday where she came to me and dispassionately said "I'm going to have to let you go." I don't want that to happen, and it made my grief come back in the week before this experience.
Anyway, most mornings I think of her as I wake up...and this time I remembered how we used to smile at each other...the mutual smile was a big part of our living relationship. The thought of the smile made me feel like she was right there smiling back...and I suddenly had an intense feeling that something passed right through my body. It was like something passed through my tissues, in between my cells. It came through from above me to my right, and passed through me on a diagonal, down to the left. I lost track of it as it quickly exited my body because I was engulfed in sudden warmth and love. The entire experience probably lasted about one or two seconds, but I felt a tremendous relief from the grief for quite awhile after that happened.
This
experience has made me really wonder about this illusion we all carry around
with us that we are solid beings.
Was this experience difficult
to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an
awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling
or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or
hear something associated with the deceased?
No
Did you feel a touch or
experience any physical contact from the deceased?
Yes
An "interleaving" of something
about my size going through me from just below my eyes down to below my knees.
Was the touch
familiar or unfamiliar?
Though it felt loving, I felt a neutrality about it...could not specifically
identify it as my lost lover.
Was anything
communicated by the touch?
Love and a momentary feeling of
co-existence.
Is there any
possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
No.
Did you see the
deceased?
No
Did you smell a distinct
smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience
last?
Maybe 3 minutes from the first
remembrance of our smiles to it exiting my bedroom. The actual co-existence
seemed to be more of a passing through - not an occupation...so it lasted only 1
- 2 seconds.
Was the beginning and end of
the experience gradual or more sudden?
Sudden
Could you sense the emotions
or mood of the deceased?
Uncertain
Did the deceased give you
information you did not previously know?
Not this time.
How do you currently view the
reality of your experience?
Experience was probably real
Please explain
why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:
I usually don't have a
problem separating memories from actual kinesthetic experience.
Was the
experience dream like in any way?
Yes
I was just waking up...hadn't
started processing goals or logistics of the day. The memory of Carol's smile
made me relax and take pleasure in what we used to have...so I think I was more
subjective and open than usual.
Describe in detail your
feelings/emotions during the experience:
Surprise to feel something going
through my body! I had just been experiencing a pleasurable memory, and did not
expect a feeling of something passing through me...but it didn't feel hostile at
all, so I wasn't upset. It certainly left me questioning what really happened.
Just before it happened, I felt flooded with warmth and love and lightness.
Was there any emotional
healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
It seems that Carol has not
completely "let me go". I felt pretty happy for most of the rest of the day.
What was the best and worst
part of your experience?
The smile memories and the warmth
and love.
Has your life changed
specifically as a result of your experience?
No
What other
attitudes and beliefs about your experience do you currently have?
Other belief I have recently completed 24 lectures on Particle Physics by
Steven Pollack from Colorado University. I wonder if this new understanding of:
1. How much empty space is actually in "matter" and 2. Just how much we really
don't know about reality from a scientific standpoint. I feel this might have
enabled me to acknowledge this experience with more clarity.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No
Did the
experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife,
God, etc.?
No But
other experiences since Carol's death have made me more open-minded about things
that are beyond our normal perception. We humans go around thinking we "seen it
all" when we can only see a tiny fraction of the total electromagnetic
spectrum...the joke is on us and we are prone to hubris.
Death
Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
Uncertain
Carol
and I used to joke that we would meet each other back in the Old West and we
would be cowboys...and this was before Brokeback Mountain"!
Did
you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience
that could be verified later?
No
What
emotions did you feel during the experience?
Questioning and
puzzlement.
Was
the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
No
Did
you have any sense of altered space or time?
Yes
Something was momentarily occupying what I thought was the space my body was
occupying.
Did
you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or
purpose?
Uncertain
The
feeling was very strong and quickly passed - with no particular way to identify
a personality associated with it. I was left questioning my own sense of
reality.
Have
you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or
web site?
No
Is
there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?
I wonder
if other people have experienced this.
Were there any
associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life,
medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did
you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or
other spiritual event?
Yes
In
college (many years ago) I had out of body experiences while asleep in my dorm
room. These stopped when I realized I had been smothered while being molested
when I was six years old.
Did
the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively
describe your experience?
Yes