Shelley R's
ADC
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I can't outline
them here and now...as I've mentioned above, several of my stories have been
outlined in my blog at http://flutterby-whitebutterfly.blogspot.com/ I haven't
got the time to tell them here.
Details of
location of experience and your activity at the time of experience:
These experiences have
occurred in various ways and places. One in the kitchen of my house, one in the
family room of another of our homes while I was sitting on the couch visiting
with a friend....she was aware that something extraordinary had occurred. One
while I was in bed, but awake in a mountain cabin. There have been others, in
other places.
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
Yes
The experiences are
sometimes very difficult to explain....not because I can't find the words to
tell in literal terms what has occurred...but because they are multilayered
experiences that come with otherworldly means of communication and feelings that
are not translatable. Part of what makes the experience authentic and "real" is
the overwhelming spiritual feeling that is not definable or expressible. My
efforts to tell the experience results in the loss somehow of the beauty and
singularity of it.
Did you hear the
deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
I heard
everything in my "mind's ear" or it was communicated telepathically to me.
Sometimes knowledge and understanding of something would descend on me and I
would just "know" something that was whole. Something it would have taken a
long time to hear, learn and "know" in the earthly way of learning and
communicating.
Did
the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you,
or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was
communicated? I
described this in the box above.
Is
there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
NO.
Did you feel a
touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?
Yes
One time I felt my
Son who had recently died get into the bed next to me and put his arms around
me. I also felt my husband's touch in my hair after he had died. When he was
alive he would often gently touch my hair...I felt that for weeks after he died.
Was
the touch familiar or unfamiliar?
Familiar. I described
this in the above box.
Was
anything communicated by the touch?
LOVE. Tenderness,
concern.
Is
there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
NO
Did you see the
deceased?
Yes
I have seen my
deceased son and husband in two kinds of dreams. There are the kinds of dreams
that I call "common" dreams. These are the fragmented, disjointed, often
bizarre dreams that we all have very often. I believe these "common" dreams
reflect the issues, fears, concerns, hopes etc. that we have in our wakeful
periods, and are reflected in our dreams. The other kind of "dream" is much
more rare; it is the kind of "experience" that feels real; it has a sequence of
events that follow each other in a more logical way....even though what is
experienced in the "dream" can be otherworldly and fantastical if measured
against our awake reality. These "dreams" are (I believe) instructional and are
real visits and messages, meant to help us, or inform us.
How
clearly did the deceased appear?
I was sitting up on the
couch in my family room talking to my friend. Behind her was a large painting
where the glass was reflecting the room instead of showing the painting through
it because of the lighting. I saw movement in it, and looked up over my friends
head. I saw a perfect reflection of my recently deceased husband walk across
the room. I jerked my head to my left, which is where he'd have had to bee to
be reflected that way, and of course I didn't see him there. My reaction was so
striking that when I looked back at my friend, she was white as a ghost and
said: "Shelley, WHAT DID YOU SEE?!"
How
much of the deceased did you see?
I saw him from his
abdomen up past the top of his head, because that was what the reflection in the
glass on the painting would have caught if he'd been alive and walking in that
place in the room.
Did
the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
He appeared to be in
his early to mid thirties. His hair (which had turned kind of gray) was the
light brown it had been in his thirties. He looked younger in the face too.
How
healthy did the deceased appear to be?
He looked perfectly
healthy in the reflection....he had died of stomach cancer and because he
couldn't eat, he looked in the end very emaciated.
Is
there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
NO
Did you smell a
distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the
experience last?
seconds? Hard
to tell, it felt like a "timeless" or "out of time" moment....I've had this same
sense of "out of time" before with other experiences.
Was the beginning
and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
sudden
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
I had been talking
about Jim and was being kind of maudlin....I got the impression that he was
thinking...."well, I've heard enough of this" He didn't seem mad, just matter
of fact, laid back and sort of in his "here's Shelley being Shelley, but I love
her anyway" mode.
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?
NO.
How do you
currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
I was WIDE awake, I'm a normal, reasonably bright person. Fairly practical,
even cynical about some things. I am not religious, though I do believe in the
existence of another plane/dimension...perhaps innumerable dimensions.
Was
the experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail
your feelings/emotions during the experience:
I was reminiscing about
my husband to a friend, I was relaxed, feeling sad, then went to feeling wonder,
surprise, amazement as the event unfolded in front of me.
Was there any
emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Uncertain
What was the best
and worst part of your experience?
It was what it was....I
can't think of a best or worst.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Yes I don't fear death.
Did
the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death,
afterlife, God, etc.?
Yes It confirmed what other of these experiences have shown me...that "life"
is eternal, that love and relationships transcend death, that the spirit
plane/dimension is all around us.
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
Yes
When
my husband was dying, I asked him to be with us after death to guide and help us
along. I've had multiple confirming experiences that have shown me that he is
absolutely doing what I asked him to do.
Did
you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience
that could be verified later?
Uncertain
What emotions did you feel during the experience?
Happiness at seeing him, amazement, joy, and wonder.
Was
the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
Yes
In
two or three of the cases, my three year old daughter (she is now 17) was aware
of my recently deceased son's presence; and she gave me information he wanted me
to have.
Did
you have any sense of altered space or time?
Yes
I
was "out of time' time did not exist in that place/moment
Did
you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or
purpose?
Yes
I
felt that all was well, I was feeling no emotion....only mildly interested in
what was happening to the "me" in the pool.
Did
you become aware of future events?
No
Did
you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience
that you did not have prior to the experience?
Yes
I
have been more intuitive, I have had many experiences of spirit, and have had
some (a few) premonition type experiences.
Did
you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?
Yes
This
has happened a few times for me...once when I was 4 and had a shallow, brief
near death experience. I was drowning in a pool, I felt a burst of panic as I
want under the water. I remember (like it was yesterday) sinking to the bottom,
looking up at the surface above me, then everything got very bright and
peaceful, and next thing I knew I was above the indoor pool near the roof,
watching my uncle wade through the water to where I was. He had a look of
almost panic on his face, and I watched as he picked me out of the water and put
me on the side of the pool. I then went back into my body and choked and gasped
as my parents stood over me arguing about who was supposed to be watching me.
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?
No
Did
you see a light?
Yes
Not
a light at the end of a tunnel as described in so many NDEs; but I was
surrounded by light and peace.
Did
any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location
described above?
No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes People are polite, I don't know that they believe or take seriously my
experiences when I've told them.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher
or web site?
No
Is
there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?
NO
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect
the experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life,
medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did
you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or
other spiritual event?
Yes
I
have outlined this in a box above.
Did
the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively
describe your experience?
Yes