Sarah T ADC
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My partner Robert died of cancer in 2018. We had been
together for twelve years. We were so close and so ideally suited to each other
we considered ourselves to be soulmates.
Unfortunately due to a disagreement on his side of
the family, and the very complicated situation we found ourselves in, we were
unable to be together for the last few weeks of his life.
During one of our calls together in his final week
he promised with all his heart to 'try and get to me” as he put it, after he had
died.
I stayed open minded because past experiences and a
sensitive nature have taught me to be so.
The ADC took place just two hours after his death
fifteen miles away in a hospice.
On the night Robert died I had a lucid dream. It began with
a false awakening. I believed I had woken up to feel an unusual wind-like energy
blowing on the back of my body, mostly on my back and head.
I knew instantly it was Robert. It was as if he had
just that second come into the bedroom and it had woken me up, when in reality I
was still asleep.
I remember thinking 'He’s dead now” and not feeling
any grief about it because in my altered state of consciousness, my lucid
dreaming, only physical death existed and it was as if on a soul level we had
never truly been apart.
After about 3 seconds of feeling this he moved closer.
The wind sensation on my back grew stronger, and I
found myself enveloped in what felt like an all encompassing, all embracing,
spiritual hug, although my position in the bed remained the same.
All physicality had gone and he had become this
volatile, highly energetic entity recognizable to me as Robert but comparable to
being caught up in a miniature maelstrom or the eye of a storm; a wind-like
phenomenon that did not feel dangerous, frightening or destructive, but instead
had a conscious, was familiar to me and loved me. This is the closest I can get
to describing how it felt.
It was so overpowering that I stopped passively
experiencing and began to resist a little to what was happening to me.
I felt a mixture of feelings.
I wasn’t scared. How could I be. It was Robert and
we loved each other.
But his spiritual form felt utterly foreign to me
and the intensity of it mildly unsettling.
I lifted my head and in a tone of half joking
protest typical of me, I said 'Robert, what’s going on.”
I then felt some of his energy shift around me and I
got the definite impression of just his arms coalesced as it were within the
overall mass of his energy, holding me in a familiar and classic spoons
position.
In hindsight I think he was trying to reassure me.
The gesture was personal to us and more tangibly
human and loving than just pure volatile energy, although at the time I didn’t
realise this. I just felt his arms around me.
As I lifted myself up in the bed I found myself in the
bizarre situation of lifting both of us; Robert in his new spiritual form and
myself in my denser physical form.
At the same moment I lost the feel of his arms
around me as they quickly
reverted back into being formless again.
I managed to get out of the bed and still carrying his
presence stagger walked half blindly and with enormous difficulty along our
small and narrow landing.
Like someone covered in a massive swarm of bees, I
had to hold my arms out, away from my sides, to balance myself.
My physical body seemed to hold no barrier to him
because it felt like he had merged both into me and around me just short of
actual possession.
I still thought and existed independently.
Also, I could sense some kind of process taking
place but at the time of it happening I was unable to define what it was.
Again on hindsight, and taking into consideration he
had died just two hours before, I think he was reviewing his life, possibly his
relationship with me.
My intention at this point was to go into my Dad’s bedroom
to let him know that Robert was with me. He had dementia and we had all been
living together before Robert died.
The fact that he would not have understood what was
happening did not seem important within the spiritual context of the dream I was
having.
However before I could approach his door Roberts presence
suddenly and decisively lifted off me and disappeared.
The dream then took a more ordinary turn.
There was a break in the dreams continuity, the
missing part being from standing on the landing about to enter my Dads room, to
both of us (my Dad and myself) being downstairs, peering in through the open
living room door,
The living room was dim. The TV heavy with static.
Up until this point everything I had experienced had
been sensed and felt.
But now I was able to see Robert for the first time.
He was sitting on the sofa and looked slightly
insubstantial.
It felt and appeared to be just as much a continuation of
his side of the experience as my own, as though he had gone straight downstairs
from when he lifted off me, as if somehow it was all happening to all of us at
the same time.
In other words it felt real.
His hands rested on his knees. His gaze was tilted
down and inward.
He did not move or look at us, not even once.
I am unsure if he was aware of our presence in the
doorway or if he was allowing us to see him. Possibly both. He looked like
someone in quiet but serious contemplation, as though he had just taken in an
enormous amount of information and was attempting to process it all.
The area around his heart and chest glowed softly as
though lit from within. He was also wearing some of the everyday clothes he had
taken with him to the hospice where he died.
My Dad exclaimed 'It’s Robert' and began to move forward.
I placed my hand on his arm to stop him.
'No, it’s not' I replied. 'it’s his spirit.'
Those simple words of acknowledgment, spoken with deep
conviction and certainty, brought a sudden and unexpected end to the whole
experience. A split second after saying the word 'spirit'
I woke up, for real this time and with a comforting
conviction.
I was certain Robert had visited me in my sleep and maybe
even my Dad, although I was unable to confirm this.
I’ve taken it as evidence of the continuing bond of
love between us, even after death.
It also strikes me as significant now that the room
I actually saw him in and acknowledged he was a spirit was the 'living'room.
The whole experience lasted about 35 seconds.
Was this experience difficult to express in words?
Yes
some of the elements
to it were incomparable to anything I could think of in this world.
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased
without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with
the deceased?
No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact
from the deceased?
Yes
His arms around my
waist. And overall as an energy.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?
Both. A familiar action and personality but in an unfamiliar form, until I saw
him sitting on the sofa.
Was anything communicated by the touch?
See description. The main communicants seems to be of love, longing,
reassurance, reuniting.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other
source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?
No. None whatsoever.
Did you see the deceased?
Yes
See my account. He
looked as he always did, neither older, younger or particularly ravaged by
illness. The difference in appearance was the glow that came from the area of
his heart and a slight insubstantiality for want if a better word.
How
clearly did the deceased appear?
Slightly transparent.
How much of the deceased did you see?
All of
him when he was sitting on the sofa.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
The
same age as when he died. It was just two hours post death.
How healthy did the deceased appear to be?
He looked a little ill,
but nit at deaths door or beyond.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
No.
There wasn’t a wind or even a slight draft in the bedroom. The wind like energy
was spiritual, without a doubt,
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor
associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the
experience last?
Around
35 seconds. I’ve tried to calculate it as closely as I can by going through it
in my mind.
Was the beginning
and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
The end was very sudden, although not
unpleasantly so. The beginning was a gentle
awakening, without shock.
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
I could sense his
love, his longing to be with me (He had come back home to me as quickly as he
could and as soon as he was able) a feeling of intent and purpose at one point
on the landing, a sense of reuniting.
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?
No.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience
as real or not real:
I just know. I have had numerous experiences throughout my
life which has been quite a hard one. I have had several ADC’s with loved ones.
OBEs when I was younger. I get synchronised coincidences quite often. And a
strange ability when in a relaxed state close to sleep to be able to form a
tunnel through concentration and effort (I used to call it a telescope) down
which I can see a bright area and sometimes scenes from different time periods
but always mundane ones,mlastingnonky a few seconds at a time because the
concentration is too great.
All this has made me a firm believer based on
personal experience.
Was the experience dream like in any way?
Uncertain
It was a lucid dream
during them first half of the experience. And a more traditional dream during
the second half. At the same time it did not feel like an ordinary dream. It
felt special and spiritual in nature.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the
experience:
Please
See account for my best description. I would add though that, despite the
spiritual unfamiliarity of him I took his visit almost for granted because we
were close and both spiritually open minded.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the
experience?
Yes
See above. And I can
add that it, along with the relationship as a whole, has accelerated my
spiritual growth and my closeness to God.
What was the best and worst part of your experience?
The best
part was being reunited with my partner, being with him again and knowing he was
alive in some way. The worst part was the bizarre overpowering feeling of his
energy upon me.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your
experience?
Uncertain
Describe:
I do have even more spiritual confidence which means I deal
with everything in a better more positive way. My life hasn’t been able to
change dramatically because I have been caring for my Dad who has dementia.
I am definitely on a more even keel than I would
have been at this stage in my life.
Did you have any
changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Yes
It led to a deeper spiritual belief and knowledge. I view it
as part of my spiritual journey and thank God for it.
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings
such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?
Yes
See above.
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s).
Have you ever made such a compact?
Yes
See my account. We were inseparable and rarely spent a day
apart when he was alive. His terminal illness was a huge shock to both of us. I
knew he would try to visit me. But I didn’t know for sure if I would experience
it or if God would permit it to happen, I think sometimes
it depends on whether you need it for your spiritual
growth. So in answer I expected something to happen, but was still shocked when
it did.
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events
during your experience that could be verified later?
No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?
I
still felt terrible grief, but the experience acted as a buffer, giving me the
conviction that no matter how bad I felt, he was still with me. Love is eternal.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time?
No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge,
universal order and/or purpose?
No
Did you become aware of future events?
No
Did you have any
psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did
not have prior to the experience?
Yes
Yes. Eight
ADCs with other family members. Two shard NDEs with
the same family members. OBEs as a teenager and younger woman. Many occurrences
of synchronicity, And an ability to see scenes behind my eyes. When in a very
relaxed state I can form a tunnel or tube with my eyelids closed. (I used to
call it a telescope)
down which I can see a bright light and sometimes
mundane everyday scenes from various time periods.
It takes an enormous amount of concentration and
focus to form it and
so
only lasts a few seconds. Sometimes it happens
involuntarily, without effort when I’m falling asleep. I have had these
experiences all my life particularly Intensely
at turning points or in times of crisis.
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from
your body?
No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than the
deceased?
No
Did you see a light?
No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place
other than the location described above?
No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes
My best friend, and
an open minded neighbor. They believe me and it has helped to reinforce
their own growing belief in God and an afterlife.
I’m selective in who I tell.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with
any other researcher or web site?
No
Is
there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?
No. I
think Ingot everything down in the account.
Were there any associated medications or substances with
the potential to affect the experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in
your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the
experience?
No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out
of body experience or other spiritual event?
Yes
See above section
for OBES, ADCs and two shared NDEs plus other experiences.
Did the questions asked and information you provided
accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?
Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this
questionnaire.
No.
Experience description 2654:
Two weeks after my partners death I dreamt I had woken
up to feel his hands massaging the top of my head just as he used to when I
had a headache.
I was momentarily stunned by it. I was lying on
my side and he was suspended over me in the bed, about a foot above me, but
just short of my head and shoulders. The sense I had was of someone who had
energetically swam, for want of a better word, through the air and space of
the bedroom, in a similar way to someone who had dived deep onto the ocean
bed and had entered an alien territory.
Only his bare hands up to his wrists had formed.
Everything else about him seemed structure less, just a formless idea.
His presence felt peaceful and wise as though he
had
adjusted to a life in the spiritual world. I’ve always
been very inquisitive and so this, along with a basic longing for more
contact with him, kind of took over.
I reached up and grabbed one of his hands. I
managed to pull it down from the top of my head so that it was just a bit
lower than my my right shoulder.
I looked but saw it with an inner vision,
without physically turning my head or using my eyes.
He stopped moving and for about 2 seconds I was
able (or allowed, I’m really nit sure which) to
hold on to it. His skin, and I call
it skin
but of course it wasn’t physical skin, had a
very unusual texture to it, a totally different quality. I knew I wasn’t
touching flesh. At the same time it felt very real and present. It felt
spiritual but in a way that’s impossible to describe because it’s
incomparable to anything I can think of in this world.
It was also smoother, flawless, and younger,
around thirty years old which is before I knew him.
On hindsight, I almost think I wasn’t supposed
to try and hold onto him like that and in such a curious it’s driven way. It
was as if this simple action had deviated from the purpose of his visit.
He quickly and gently disentangled his hand from
my hold.
The air and space in the bedroom became again like a
deep dark ocean to him and he was able to both drift and disperse his way
back out of it, the exact same way he had probably come.
Then it was over. I woke up, this time for real.
This experience lasted around 15 seconds.
Was this experience difficult to express in words?
Yes
The feel of the
physical contact with my partner in spiritual form impossible to describe.
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the
deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated
with the deceased?
No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact
from the deceased?
Yes
I felt his hands
on my head, and I held his hand.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?
Familiar. It was
him. But as a spirit.
Was anything communicated by the touch?
Love, and
devotion. Giving me a head massage, was one of the most clear and loving
acts he did for me.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any
other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?
No
Did you see the deceased?
Yes
Just his hands
up to the wrists.
How
clearly did the deceased appear?
Solid in an unearthly way.
How much of the deceased did you see?
Just his hands up to the wrists.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
Younger, around thirty
How healthy did the deceased appear to be?
Very healthy, sort of primed.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in
the surroundings at the time of your experience?
No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or
odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did
the experience last?
Around 15 seconds
Was the
beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
Both gentle.
Could you sense
the emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
A sense of
purpose from him, a focused mission like feeling came off him. Also a
calmness, self assurance.
Did the
deceased give you information you did not previously know?
No
How do you currently view the reality of your
experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your
experience as real or not real:
I just know.
It’s unmistakably spiritual and real. And it makes logical sense. It was
unexpected.
Was the experience dream like in any way?
Uncertain
It was within
the context of a false awakening. I was very lucid. In an altered state of
awareness.
Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the
experience:
I was
grieving but stable, going with it not resisting , relaxed. I knew he had
died. I knew it was his spiritual form. He was with me but at the same time
not with me.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following
the experience?
Yes
Each experience
reinforces my belief in and closeness to God. His death has speed up my
spiritual growth.
What was the best and worst part of your experience?
Best - it
was definitely my partner. I knew it was him. We were together, if only for
15 seconds. Worst - nothing really accept his spiritual form being
unfamiliar to me. He seemed to have lost some of his humanity in the
transition. He was still a loving being but more spirit now than human.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of your
experience?
No
Did the experience give you any spiritual
understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?
Yes
I think primarily they are
only supposed to give us messages of love and truth.
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever
dies first will try to contact the other(s).
Have you ever made such a compact?
Yes
He told me over
the telephone prior to his death that he would “try and get to me” as he put
it. He said he would watch over me.
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or
events during your experience that could be verified later?
No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?
I found the
experience reassuring, evidence of his continuing love for me.
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
No
Did you have any sense of altered space or time?
No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge,
universal order and/or purpose?
No
Did you become aware of future events?
No
Did you have
any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that
you did not have prior to the experience?
No
Did you experience a separation of your consciousness
from your body?
Uncertain
I saw his
hands with an inner vision, without having to turn my head or use my eyes so
it’s possible, I think, it may have been part of some kind of separation
process. I have experienced partial and total OBEs at a younger age, mainly
in my teens and twenties.
Did you meet or
see any other beings other than the deceased?
No
Did you see a light?
No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a
place other than the location described above?
No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes
My best friend.
It helped her enormously to try and start believing herself in a spiritual
reality.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally
with any other researcher or web site?
No
Is
there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?
No.
Were there any associated medications or substances
with the potential to affect the experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events
in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the
experience?
No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience,
out of body experience or other spiritual event?
Yes
I have had OBEs,
two shard NDES, and numerous ADC after the death of three loved ones. I
experience a lot if synchronicity,
Did the questions asked and information you provided
accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?
Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve
this questionnaire.
No, thank you.