A week after Tom's death I was sitting alone in the guest room, crying and talking to Tom, telling him that I wanted to make him proud of me and to become the loving spiritual person that he was. He, to my knowledge never said a bad word about anyone, was calm and loving and just a wonderful husband. I wanted to become everything that he would be proud of, to thank him for the wonderful life that he gave me. I sat there crying and finally told myself to get up and do something. I went into my bedroom to straighten up and went to the closet. It was very straight except for a greeting card that I saw laying face down on the floor. I picked it up and read it. It was from Tom and it said "Everything that I could ever wish you to be....you already are. Thanks for marrying me, your loving husband Tom.  The card must have been about 30 yrs old and I didn't remember it. Also I kept all of my keepsakes downstairs in a trunk! I cried with relief and joy. I knew it was a message from Tom. have gotten several others but in the last couple of years they have stopped. I know that I am doing what I have come to earth for and I know that Tom is with me, but that he finished his mission here. I will see him when it is time.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you see the deceased?         No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           Finding the card only minutes after talking to Tom about the same thing. It is something that Tom would do.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           Relief and overwhelming joy.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           No

Yes, it was an affirmation that Tom is still watching over me and is still with me. I still feel it today.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      The overwhelming joy, love and relief that Tom contacted me.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No      

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No      

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  No           

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?   Yes

We talked of his possible death from his illness and I asked Tom to come to me in some way and to come and get me at the time of my death.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          Uncertain I showed people the card.


What emotions did you feel during the experience?            The same.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    No

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         No

No but I have had many instances of ESP in my life that could clearly not be explained away!

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Did you see a light?           No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?            No

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes     Close friends fully believed it but several people at church who prayed for a miracle when Tom was ill didn't seem to too sure!

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   N0 comment

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       I have had several messages from Tom that helped me with grieving and reaffirmed my belief that everything is planned before we come here and that everything will be all right no matter what I may go through in the future.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

Spiritual event. I was very worried and fearful when my husband lost his job, wondering what we would do. I was in church the next night before mass started and was alone.I was so worried that I had a hard time praying. I heard God say that everything would be all right. I believed it and never worried about it again. It was all right.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes