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Experience description:

About a month after my father passed (we were very close, and I cared for him through florid dementia and was the only one with him when he passed. The subsequent grief was profound.) To help me grieve, my wife was very kind to give me ” and my then 10-yr old daughter ” her weekend reservation at a B&B out in the beautiful Virginia countryside a few weeks later. I asked the proprietor for a good hiking spot, and he pointed to an area in the mountain that was bordering the valley we were in. So, we drove up there and pulled off the side of the road at the trail head. Before we got out of the car, we could see a large, black bee buzzing over to the car. Neither of us are scared of bees, but the fact that one came zooming out to us did cause a flinch reaction and we speed away on foot up the trail. The bee was persistent, but never getting in our faces or appearing threatening. Everywhere we walked, it followed. If we stopped and sat, it hovered nearby or landed on something until we got back up. Then it followed us some more; it followed us the entire walk. It was as though it were our buddy -- but at the same time, trying to tell us something. We walked several miles, Id guess. It followed us back to the car and then flew under the edge of the hood at the bottom of the windshield ” clearly hitching a ride. Both of us were flabbergasted and totally focused on what was happening. I drove slowly down the mountain so as not to lose the bee, but it didn't make it all the way back. I didn't see it get blown off, but that must have happened. To this day, we talk about it as the strangest and most amazing experience of our lives. We laugh when I call the bee, 'Dad,' but we have no explanation. I just wrote off the idea that it was a communication from the dead and let it remain in my memory as just a freaky story about an incredible bee. I promise you its a true story. Now that I've had additional unexplainable (ADC?) experiences the last two days, I am thinking that there must have been something more to the bee thing ¦ but who knows ¦? It sounds crazy, but it absolutely happened.

Was this experience difficult to express in words? No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No

Did you see the deceased? No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

How long did the experience last? 1.5 hours

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? Even all the way through.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes

Crazy as it sounds, it seemed happy to see us, or at least excited to make the connection.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real

Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: It was a sober, real experience. I was approached and followed by a bee for several miles. A bee that was never threatening or annoying. A bee we couldn't fake out by stopping/starting/changing direction/running. It just kept following and waiting for us when we stopped. Then climbed aboard the car. This was less than a month after my father, with whom I was very close, died. It seemed that it HAD to be him. At the same time, it seemed so funny/silly. Like, 'why would he be a bee, of all things?' Now I'm thinking perhaps it was sent ...

Was the experience dream like in any way? No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: A sense of wonder, surprise, incredulity.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes

At the time, I thought that whether the incident had anything to do with my father or not, it was a magical, auspicious moment that helped me (and my daughter) to heal.

What was the best and worst part of your experience? It was all positive.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: One can't go through something like this without it changing a person, even in small ways.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes Much more open to the idea of connection to spirits (who have lived on earth) after death. I've always understood that matter and energy cannot be created or destroyed, but prior to this experience, I was not open to the notion of connection with specific sprints. My beliefs were maybe closer to Buddhism -- at death, our spirits are released into a pure state from which we are reborn or transcend to universal energy.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Uncertain It's hard to say. Though I'm not religious and don't subscribe to any particular dogma, I do seek to know the spiritual.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Excited and happy

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes

Did you have any sense of altered space or time? No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes

It seemed a special moment that was unfolding purely for us.

Did you become aware of future events? No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No

Did you see a light? No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No

Have you shared this experience with others?

Yes Bemusement. Family members believed us -- but there also was a fair amount of chuckling.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No

Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? no

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes

4 more ADCs (quite recent), which I will enter presently.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Uncertain

I think so. But I'm glad I could just enter the story as free text also.

 

EXPERIENCE DESCRIPTION

About 2 weeks ago, I learned of the recent death (almost 5 months prior) of a dear friend (we believed we were soul mates).

Anyway, she hadn't responded to my Happy New Year IM and a few follow-up attempts electronically and by phone, so fearing the worst, I googled her name. The only thing that came up was a blog post that mentioned her name as an oblique reference. Next to her name was '(RIP).' So that's all I knew for a couple days in the initial tailspin of grief. I looked up her son (with whom I had never communicated, but who knew well of me and my relationship with his mother) on Facebook and got the details. He apologized for the way I found out, but I at least felt a little better knowing more about how and why she passed so suddenly.

About 10 days ago, I experienced what seem to be very strong contacts from her. I mostly lean skeptic, but these were just super-strong, and I have a witness for the strongest one. In fact, he suggested it was a communication; I wasn't even thinking that way. Check it out. We were returning from a concert and I pulled over for gas. My friend was inside as I was filling the tank. When he came out, he stopped in his tracks, pointed at my car, and said, 'did you fold your side windows in?' (I have a BMW that has foldable side-view mirrors, for tight squeezes. I had seen the feature demoed by the dealer, but they hadn't been folded in the 5000 miles I've driven the car.) I was shocked, 'of course not; I've been driving and have been using the mirrors the whole time.'

Now it's true that I had accompanied him into the convenience store before returning outside to then move the car over from being parked in front of the store to the pump area. Its possible someone vandalized/pranked me while we both were inside (he initially suggested it was BMW resentment or something ” its a nice-looking car), but there was no damage, no sign of violence ” just that they had been folded. And it was a quiet, peaceful scene in general. Its additionally unlikely because I would have seen it when getting in the car to drive over to the pumps. So, whatever happened, happened while I was pumping gas in a lovely silent moment. But how? These things are not electronic. They can only move by exerting quite a bit of force of them. They're not designed to be easily budged ” only to fold if you hit the side of a garage or other vehicle or something. So it happened quickly and it happened silently. My friend (the observant, analytical one) was freaked at the oddness, while I (the spacey distracted one) was only mildly concerned about potential scratch marks ¦ But everything was fine. I said to him that if it was vandalism, it was certainly of the kind and gentle variety. We talked as I reset the mirrors. They clicked solidly back into place with an audible 'thunk,' and we slid back into the car, still theorizing as to what might have occurred. I was beginning to futz around with some stuff in front, before pulling back onto the road, and he said, 'you just fixed the mirror, right? Well, look.' And he points to his window, against which the mirror had once again been folded. I turned to my window. Same thing. It couldn't have been more than 20 seconds that we had been in the car, and those mirrors had been silently folded back in? Truly defies any conception of matter, space, and time. I said something like, 'maybe there was magnetism out there' in the modern, hi-tech, covered pumping area. He said, 'dude, there's nothing in that mirror assembly (mostly plastic, a little metal and glass) that could be magnetized so strongly. Admittedly, you'd think it would have happened before, if that were the case. So, he said, 'maybe it was your friend?' Earlier that evening, I had shared my story with him. Somehow that made total sense, and made me feel a lot better about everything.

So, I returned home and settled in with a snack and some late-night TV with my daughter. A few minutes after she went to bed, the TV volume jumped. At first I thought it was a weird spike in level from the broadcaster or from Comcast. A split-second later, the volume indicator on the TV comes on and it just steadily increases. I grabbed the remote and could not stop it from maxing out. I couldn't shut it off with the remote, either. The TV is now blasting and waking up the house. I run to the set and it wont shut off there at first. I yank the wrong AC cable, before finally being able to shut it off via the front panel. A minute later, I turned it on again “ it came on full blast and was not responsive to depressing the 'down' volume switch. I shut it off. My wife came down a few minutes later, picked up the remote, turned it on, turned it down, and its back to normal. She looked at me like I was insane. Never had a problem with this TV or remotes before. Totally freaky. This time I was kind of shaken.

The next day, I decided to take my work lunch by myself. When I got to the restaurant and parked, deep in thought about her (as I've been constantly this week when not interacting with others or absolutely having to work), I turned off the car and sat there. I found myself needing to speak to her (I had already sent her some IMs on our 6-year ongoing FB IM thread, just saying things I needed to say, wish I said when she was alive, etc.). I thanked her for contacting me and I needed to tell her about a music recording session I had just rescheduled, asking her to visit me there, if being around here is not problematic or painful for her in any way. Not wanting to be desperate, but just kind of an FYI: like an implied 'hey, if you're not doing anything next Wednesday and its not too inconvenient to hang out in my plane of existence¦' sort of thing. (lol) Anyway, as I'm talking, the car makes a loud noise. Like an electrical turn on or turn off followed by a humming noise (remember, the car was off). Now, this last one might be explainable otherwise; I haven't had this car all that long, but I've never noticed any sort of auto-turn on/fan sort of activity when sitting parked with ignition off. For all I know, an experienced BMW owner could totally debunk this one. I will, however, say that I felt her presence as soon as that noise hit. Maybe just because, for the first time, I was ready for the idea that this could be a communication and as such, my brain filled in the emotional reaction. But I swear I felt warmth, love. Maybe I was generating it myself for her, thinking she was there. I don't know, but it was powerful. When the noise subsided, I opened the door and got out. The wind was suddenly up and the sun had disappeared a little. Definitely a sudden change. Whatever, I was just really feeling tuned in to my surroundings.

A couple of nights later, I decided to take a walk in a secluded area and talk to her. Those first two incidents caught me completely by surprise, and the lunchtime encounter was too public and too time-constrained. So I was walking and talking out loud to her for about an hour. Early in the conversation I told her no pressure, but feel free to give me a sign. Nothing happens at first, but later in the walk I was reminiscing about college days and referenced the psychedelic experimentation we had done together. BAM, a street light comes on immediately. LOL. She had a sense of humor. But that could have been a coincidence, right? So I kept walking, then circled back to that light (this is in a big church's parking lot, late night, after all employees had left). Now it goes off. I circle back and it comes on again. Rinse/repeat. This is a street light, not a motion-sensing light ” and the light is sputtering to turn on. Eventually I walk away and the light stays off (as it was initially) ” this is one of many lights in a row that are on. I walk there almost every night and never noticed any problems with this particular light. Still, could be coincidence. So I walk away to the far side of the large lot and look back. The light comes on. I turn a corner, light still in view, and say, 'K, thank you.' No sooner does that ending vowel come out of my mouth, then the big, bright street lamp next to me, just gets 100% brighter, making a sizzling noise. This was too much. I exclaimed something and walked up to the path that takes me back to the street for my walk home. I look back at the lot, taking in the beautiful night and feeling these strong emotions wash over me. A few moments later, BAM! ” all the street lights in the complex turn off.

Those last two incidents could have been coincidental. They happened in response to my initiating contact. But in both cases, I felt her presence palpably, along with an overall feeling of being wrapped in energy. I believe they were contacts. But the first two things? They are unexplainable. I should note that I have felt her presence during a meditation, and I still talk to her a lot -- there are some questions as to the disposition of the important creative work she left behind. I'm not sure I believe in mediums, but I plan to meet a couple just in case they can help. Two weeks ago, I would never have entertained such an idea. However, these experiences have solidified my belief in an ADC from my father 7 years ago. (Which, until the mirror incident, was hands down the strangest experience of my life.)


Was this experience difficult to express in words? No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them? Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No

Did you see the deceased? No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased? No

How long did the experience last? 1. 5-10 minutes

2. 30 seconds

3. 2 minutes

4. 40 minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden? The first two were both very sudden and dramatic at the beginning and end.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes

In #4, I felt I was being heard. That she was grateful to her all the things I had to say. I also sensed her humor and playfulness. As well as awesome power. She was a STRONG spirit in life. Had a brilliant mind; she was a scientist and a poet, highly accomplished in both arenas.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? No

How do you currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was definitely real

Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real: I a sober, analytical person. I was in my right mind, and very observant. I also have a sober, intelligent witness.

Was the experience dream like in any way? Uncertain

A little like a dream in that the feelings that swept over me were otherworldly.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience: The first one didn't register as weird until I started thinking about it (I was more concerned about the condition of my car). The more I reflected on it, the more mind-blowing it was. I was in a weird state of overall grief mixed with blissfulness from the amazing concert I had just attended. It was a beautiful, peaceful night. I was pretty chill.

The mirror incidents set me up to understand exactly what was happening with the TV thing. Still shocked me, and shook me because I couldn't stop the TV from blasting. Emotions here were more of shock and surprise. A little sense of spookiness.

The incidences of engaging in 'dialog' with the spirit were highly energizing and emotional. I felt love, attraction, longing, etc. It was very personal.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes

Feeling much better about K -- despite a difficult time before she passed, it seemed she's fine. The other important healing is that it really changes my view of the persistence of consciousness at death. I have a new outlook. As a life-long student of philosophy, I have never been too freaked out about death. But I never really believed that any association between my spiritual housing in one body could connect to another. I would have thought that my consciousness as me disappears at the time I die. Now, I think that ether it persists, or it can be conjured at will from the other side.

What was the best and worst part of your experience? It was all good. Fascinating.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience? Yes Describe: New attitude toward death. Absolute cementing of relationship with the departed.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Yes Only slightly, as described already

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? Yes See above

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact? No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later? No
What emotions did you feel during the experience? Amazement

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others? Yes

A friend was with me.

Did you have any sense of altered space or time? Yes

The mirrors moving with the speed they did and with silence bespeaks an alteration in space/time.

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Uncertain

Can't define it. Just a feeling.

Did you become aware of future events? No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience? Yes

My meditations are more profound. I see auras more easily.

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body? No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased? No

Did you see a light? No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above? No

Have you shared this experience with others?

Yes Friend (witness)

Two other friends.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site? No

Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience? No.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event? Yes

I saw a group of unidentified flying objects at Myrtle Beach, SC about 9 years ago. My daughter and I (different daughter) were walking on the beach and looking up at the sky. We saw three lights flying together, forming a triangle, and then hovering -- silently. Then one by one, they winked out and disappeared. No sound, no further movement. If it was top secret Air Force stuff, it was technology beyond anything I've ever imagined. For days afterwards, I scoured the 'net looking for other accounts. Several other people saw the same thing.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes