Shortly
after my wife passed I was struggling to redefine my place as being alone. it
was very hard figuring out what to do with our big house, going through her
things and packing them away or giving items of hers to her family, at this
point it was just me and our dog, god bless that dog, she could read me like a
book... after work sitting on the couch, I heard Cathy in the bedroom cough, not
Cathy of course, she was dead, but it sounded like it, the dog jumped first!!
hair on my neck and arms stood on end and chills ran through me like ice... I
got up and walked to our room, stood in the door way and saw my wife standing
across the room, in front of the TV, in her favorite church dress, arms down,
eyes blue, hair done, smiling at me. LOOKING RIGHT AT ME!! she smiled shook her
head "yes". I blinked and she was gone.
Was this
experience difficult to express in words? No
Did you hear the
deceased or hear something associated with the deceased? Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
Cathy was very
sick prior to her passing. I was 100% caring for her. she had this cough... a "3
cough" COUGH----COUGH, COUGH. even my dog jumped. it was her.
Did
the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you,
or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was
communicated? I
was watching TV sitting on the couch down the hall from our room. I heard her in
the bedroom.
If
you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound
the deceased made when they were alive? it was exactly the
sound she made when she was alive.
Is
there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience? I've thought about
that. and tried to rationalize it. but it was just myself and my mutt in the
living room watching TV. I thought maybe it was the program, but this came from
our bedroom. no mistake.
Was
there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
no
Did you feel a
touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased? No
Did you see the
deceased? Yes
she was exactly like
she looked in her favorite church dress when she was alive. she looked happy and
healthy.
How
clearly did the deceased appear?somewhat transparent.
How
much of the deceased did you see?entire body
Did
the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?appeared to be same
age, but not sickly
How
healthy did the deceased appear to be?oh yes, she was very
sick when she died. honestly, and hope she's not reading this, but looked
terrible... at one point in the hospital, a nurse thought she was my mother, but
in reality, she was younger than me. but in my visit, she looked ravishing.
healthy and happy
Is
there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?nope.
Did you smell a
distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the
experience last?seconds
Was the beginning
and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?very sudden
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased? Yes
she was happy,
relieved I think. she wasn't sad or sick any longer.
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?not so much
information, but, she didn't say it, but I knew after her visit it was ok for me
to go through her things and pack them away.
How do you
currently view the reality of your experience? Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
I believe Cathy knew I was struggling and having a very difficult time letting
go of her. prior to my experience I would sit and cry asking her to tell me she
was ok, asking, begging, her to let me know what to do. after her visit,
everything that seemed so confusing to me, was very clear.
Was
the experience dream like in any way? No
Describe in detail
your feelings/emotions during the experience: for everything that was
happening, trying to get a grip on my wife's passing, funeral, family...
everything. for that brief moment. everything seemed to be clear to me. I saw
sunshine.
Was there any
emotional healing in any way following the experience? Yes
Cathy was my life's
energy while she was alive and healthy, heck, I couldn't keep up with her. her
sickness made her very sad and depressed, her visit showed me that she was her
old self again, it relieved me.
What was the best
and worst part of your experience? beginning and end
Has your life
changed specifically as a result of your experience? YesDescribe:
absolutely. I
don't live to work anymore. I work to live. I enjoy sunrise, sunset, laughing
and enjoying a day doing nothing, and I find new feeling for people, to need
them, and be needed. a year after my visit, I was taken off blood pressure
meds... tell ya something?
Did you have
any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?Yes
I used to be a corporate monster. all go no quit squish the little guy type...
not since then. I gave up a six figure job, big house, car, the works, only to
find a life to enjoy with no pressure or stress. I like smiling in the mirror in
the morning now. PRICELESS.
Did the experience
give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God,
etc.? Yes
made me realize without question, there is more beyond this life. and our
heavenly father shows us the way. I have toyed around mediums, and other methods
of communicating with the dead, but I head Gods warnings in the bible about
doing such things, and, my visit was enough for me
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
No
Did you observe or
hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be
verified later? No
What emotions
did you feel during the experience? motivation. sadness. it
gave me direction to pickup my bootstraps and continue with my life.
Was the experience
witnessed or experienced by others? No
Did you have any
sense of altered space or time? No
Did you have a
sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose? Yes
I felt I was told
that there is another place after we die, and its good.
Did you become
aware of future events? No
Did you have any
psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did
not have prior to the experience?Yes
sounds crazy, but it
seems, and not 100%, but ive noticed if I think things, or anticipate them
before they happen. they do.
Did you experience
a separation of your consciousness from your body? No
Did you meet or see
any other beings other than the deceased? No
Did you see a
light? Yes
it seemed to be
behind her
Did any part of
your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described
above? No
Have you shared
this experience with others? Yes
a few, hard to read the reactions...
Have you shared
this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
No
Is there anything
else you would like to add regarding your experience? if anyone has lost a
loved one, and has not been assured as I have, please know, they are ok.
Were there any
associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience? No
Following the
experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or
substances which reproduced any part of the experience? No
Did you ever in
your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other
spiritual event? Yes
spiritual event. see
above
Did the questions
asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience? Yes
Please offer any
suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. nope