Mia E's
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I had just finished viewing all the photos of my Dad from age six months to 61 years of age. My mom had found tons of old and recent shots of my Dad for the memorial photo collage for his wake, set for the following day.
My Mom had stepped out of the dining room and I was standing alone, gazing in admiration at all the snapshots capturing my fathers existence here on earth. I started to feel "odd" and my vision went from clear to foggy to tunnel vision. I closed my eyes and felt a tremendous surge of love for my Dad. I spoke no words nor did I hear any words from him but I felt love in a pure and intense way. Not just love in general but deep down, to the core, LOVE for my father. This love wasn't just inside of me as a feeling though. I felt it surround my whole being and I reached my arms out as if I were hugging my Dad.
I did not feel his presence or touch. I only felt LOVE but I truly believed I was hugging his soul and that his soul was somehow inside of me, surrounding me and hugging me back. I tried to call out to my Mom so she could experience this too but it was as if I was in a dream state and I needed/wanted to be loud with my voice but could only muster up a tiny squeaky "Mom!"
As soon as the soft word Mom fell from lips, inside my head, I heard my own voice and that voice said, "NO!, not now...in the bedroom." I also heard my own voice telling me this, "Be strong tomorrow and at the funeral, your Mom will need you to be strong."
My Mom came back into the dining room, took one look at me and asked me, "What's wrong?" I was so shaken up I felt light-headed, dizzy, as if I was going to pass out. I slowly dragged my rattled ass into the kitchen and sat down in a chair next to the kitchen table. I composed myself and then proceeded to tell my Mom.... everything.
The funeral came and went and I honestly can't tell you how many people told me I seemed incredibly strong. In fact my best friend worried that I was too strong and wasn't reacting/grieving like I "should." To be honest though I felt convinced that my Dad was in a better place, on a new adventure, and wasn't just dead and gone. I held fast to the notion that love is the only thing that really matters and the only thing that truly lasts.
My experience in the dining room truly made me feel like my Dad's new experience was a positive one and that I should not feel sorry for him, or sad for me but I should be truly happy for him. So that is exactly what I did and only on weird random "Tuesdays" in the shower or in the car did I find tears ebbing down my cheeks. During the entire funeral I did not shed a single solitary tear. I stood tall and let my Mother, brothers and sister lean on me.
Months passed and My Mom grew weary and frustrated that others were dreaming of my father intensely. My sister, my niece and myself were having experiences with my Dad but she had not.
Then one night, as she lay in their bedroom sleeping, my Mom had a dream so real that she firmly believes it was his soul visiting hers to bring her comfort and say goodbye.
In the dream, my Mom could see my father clearly and he was very happy, very young, very handsome and very thin like when he was in high school. My parents met when my Dad was 16 and my Mom was 14. They were high school sweethearts that had just celebrated their 45th anniversary. My Mom felt an intense feeling of LOVE surround her being and flow within her. She also reached her arms out as if she were hugging him as I had in the dining room.
When she awoke from her dream, she found herself sitting up and her arms were outstretched, bent in the shape of a hug. She said the entire bedroom smelled strongly of my father's scent and not just a mere faded scent that is left behind on a pillowcase but an intense deep scent that permeated the entire bedroom.
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After my awesome cat Tabitha died I had a dream that she was dead but was visiting me to say goodbye and to let me know she was healthy and happy. I could feel her warmth and weight in my arms, I could feel her rabbit like fur rub against my cheek, I could smell her breath and was surprised it didn't smell like kitty food. She looked so young, seemed super happy and I felt intense love and happiness, sheer giddiness.
It seemed very real, so real in fact my husband showed up in my dream and I excitedly said, "Look!, Tab is here, she came back to see us!" He said, "Where?" and I explained she was lying in my arms and felt surprised that he couldn't "see" her.
What got really weird
is that I set her down on the floor and grabbed my cell phone to try to take a
picture of her but when I looked at the cell phone the photo was just a blank
screen so I tried again and again, to no avail. I gave up and went back to
holding her and the dream faded out. I like to think she shared my dream to say
goodbye and let me know she was okay and in a better place.
Was this
experience difficult to express in words?
No
Did you feel a
touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?
Yes
No for my father but
yes for my cat
Was
the touch familiar or unfamiliar?
very familiar. I felt
the soft fur of her face rub against my cheek. I felt the warmth and weight of
her body in my arms.
Was
anything communicated by the touch?
yes love was
communicated by the touch. Very rarely would she do the head bump love message
so it was always a big deal to get it.
Is
there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
Yes for my father
because I was very tired and had jet lag from flying in from Germany and hadn't
slept since the red cross had called. Its possible the overwhelming love put me
in an altered state but what I cant for the life of me explain is, "Why in the
world was I thinking in the bedroom?"
No on my cat.
Did you see the
deceased?
Yes
o for my father. I
didn't see him
Yes for my cat. She
looked young, lean, healthy, like she did when I first got her at the age of
one. Her fur was dark black and shiny. It had become grey and dull with age
and she had packed on a few pounds.
How
clearly did the deceased appear?
Dad, I didn't see
anything.
Cat, solid.
How
much of the deceased did you see?
Dad, nothing
Cat, all
Did
the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
Dad, didn't really
appear I just felt his presence/soul
Cat, she appeared 13
years younger
How
healthy did the deceased appear to be?
Dad, n/a
Cat, her only
infirmities were age related- dull coat, white and grey fur, extra poundage
Is
there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
Dad n/a
cat, no
Did you smell a
distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
Yes
What
smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?
Dad, No for me.
Dad, yes in Moms dream. She smelled his scent
Cat, yes in my dream.
I smelled her breath and recognized that it didn't smell like her normal smell
or kitty food.
Was
the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?
no
Was
anything communicated by the smell?
yes I felt good that
her breath wasn't stinky. As she aged she lost almost all of her teeth and her
breath smelled bad over the years since I didn't brush her teeth and because
frankly her food gave her funk mouth sometimes. I was relieved that I couldn't
smell bad breath in my dream because it made me feel like she was in a healthier
state.
Is
there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any
other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?
no
How long did the
experience last?
Dad, 1-2 minutes
Cat, 5-10 minutes
Was the beginning
and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
Dad, sudden
beginning with gradual ending
Cat, sudden beginning
with gradual ending
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
Dad- I sensed love
for me in beginning and worry/concern for my mom in ending
Cat- she was so flippin
happy
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?
Dad-Yes the I
didn't know I needed to be the strong one at the funeral or what was even meant
by in the bedroom until later after my Moms dream and after the funeral had
passed.
I felt as if I was now
aware for the first time in my life that a soul did exist and that there was
more to life that just life on earth. Oh and that pets have souls as much as we
do and the deceased are happy. I also learned that love is the only thing that
truly lasts.
How do you
currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
My dream was more than a dream it was a shared dream with me and my cat and i
really think she was sending me a message that she was healthy, happy and okay.
She was giving me comfort and telling me goodbye. That dream seemed more final
that her actual death.
My experience with my
Dad was real too. I felt his love and there is no way those thoughts just came
into my head on my own accord. Perhaps the be strong message would have but the
in the bedroom message was too left field for my imagination.
Was
the experience dream like in any way?
Yes
Dad, I truly felt
like I was in an altered state
Cat, yes it was a dream
but more
Describe in
detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:
22- I felt relaxed
before dreaming of my cat and I felt admiration and love for my father directly
before the experience.
23- I felt intense love
in both experiences and relief that they were okay with death
Was there any
emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
The loss of loved
ones is easier to accept when you have faith in an afterlife and feel they are
truly happy
What was the best
and worst part of your experience?
the love
Has your life
changed specifically as a result of your experience?
Yes
Describe:
I focus more on
loving everyone and I am more spirtual but my religious practices have not
changed and my career choices are the same.
Did you have
any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Yes
I am convinced that there is a soul and an afterlife that includes deep love and
intense happiness
Did the experience
give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God,
etc.?
Yes
afterlife
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
Yes
My husband
Did you observe or
hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be
verified later?
Yes
The in the bedroom comment resurfaced and my Dad showed up in my Mom's bedroom
as he said he would. He was very into being true to his word and often lectured
us kids about our word being our honor.
What emotions did
you feel during the experience?
happiness and gratitude
to experience the love and comfort
Was the experience
witnessed or experienced by others?
Yes
Did you have any
sense of altered space or time?
Yes
there was something
altered about my encounter with my Dad. The tunnel vision was strange and I
felt very dizzy and light-headed afterwards
Did you have a
sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?
Yes
Honestly, I felt I
learned that love is the most important thing and that it's the only thing that
truly lasts.
Did you become
aware of future events?
Yes
I became aware that
my Dad would visit my Mom in her bedroom and that I had to be strong for the
upcoming funeral
Did you have any
psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did
not have prior to the experience?
No
Did you experience
a separation of your consciousness from your body?
No
Did you meet or see
any other beings other than the deceased?
Yes
I saw a little boy
in my childhood home that wasn't really there.
Did you see a
light?
No
Did any part of
your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described
above?
No
Have you shared
this experience with others?
Yes
They all agreed with me that what I experienced with my Dad was real. The cat
dream has been viewed by most as just a dream.
Have you shared
this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web
site?
Yes
I shared the cat
dream on a blog where others were having similar pet dreams
Is there anything
else you would like to add regarding your experience?
no
Were there any
associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience?
No
Following the
experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or
substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you ever in
your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other
spiritual event?
Yes
My brother James
Patrick died from a premature birth and only lived for a few days. My sister,
my Mom and myself all saw a little boy in our home that we would mistake as
being my older living brother, John. It would just be a glimpse of him sitting
on a bed for me and I would go to tell him to get off of Mom and Dad's bed but
then he would just disappear. I once told my Mom this and she started asking
alot of questions about what he looked like and I relayed that he looked just
like my brother John. She said she saw him too in the house and would mistake
him as John and so did my sister.
Did the questions
asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience?
Yes
Please offer any
suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.
I don't think so but
maybe.