Melissa R's
ADC
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I was sitting/laying on my bed crying, screaming, pleading to both Mama and God. I had just returned from Montana, where she had been living for about a year and where she had passed away. I cant describe with words the feelings I had inside as a result of losing her and in such a horrifying way. I had been crying in outbursts of sadness, anger, frustration, and guilt since she left this life and this day was no different. After an hour or so of sitting on the bed in tears, eyes swollen and heartache bleeding from my soul I started feeling as if I was going into a panic attack, so I got up, still crying, and started towards the bedroom door as I was all of the sudden uneasy about being alone given my state. I approached the door as if I couldn't get there fast enough and at that moment, I stopped and turned toward the room in a kind of freeze. I felt an eerie shiver crawl up my back. Which frightened me for a second. I then heard Mama say to me, in a worried and saddened tone, "Please stop crying". For a moment I just stood there not breathing and then just a quick I felt a sort of calm come over me and I replied to her, "ok Ma, I will try". Again, for just a minute, I stood there until I couldn't hold back the tears and I turned and walked out of the room.
Almost every time I cry
since that experience, I think back on that day and how sad she seemed to be
that I was so deeply torn over her passing. But, I still cry silently and
sometimes very loud. I've still yet to accept her being gone and continue to
bear a soul of pain and loneliness and a near empty heart full of unanswered
questions and worry for where her soul may be.
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
No
Did you hear the
deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
My Mama asking
me to please stop crying. It was almost clear as would have been had she been
right there beside me in life. She expressed her sorrow in my pain and her wish
for me to be strong.
Did
the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you,
or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was
communicated?
She was speaking both in my heart and as if she were right there on my left side
as I stood looking from the door to my room.
If
you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound
the deceased made when they were alive?
Quite similar to her
how she would sound in life.
Is
there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
Not at all.
Was
there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
I do not believe
so.
Did you feel a
touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?
Uncertain
I felt a feeling up
my back, which enveloped over my body going up and over my head until it
consumed me.
Was
the touch familiar or unfamiliar?
I was taken back at
first, almost scared until I hear her. However, at that moment it didn't seem
fully familiar. But hearing her made it so, she was there to comfort me even if
for a brief moment.
Was
anything communicated by the touch?
I don't think so.
Is
there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
No.
Did you see the
deceased?
No
How
clearly did the deceased appear?
I have not seen her in
any manner outside of the dreams I have. Which, she appears as solid as everyone
else.
How
much of the deceased did you see?
All of her.
Did
the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
She looked, to me,
as she did the last time I saw her alive.
How
healthy did the deceased appear to be?
She has appeared to be,
in what I call normal health, when I see her in the dreams.
Is
there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
Again, no.
Did you smell a
distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the
experience last?
Just for a
moment.
Was the beginning
and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
The end was
sudden, i.e., the feeling and sound of her voice, there and gone.
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
She was sad and
worried as she was in life toward me for months before she had passed.
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?
What she had
asked of me was helpful in an important way.
How do you
currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
Hearing her was real therefore I believe in my heart the experience was reality
via the spirit realm.
Was
the experience dream like in any way?
No
this one was not.
Was there any
emotional healing in any way following the experience?
No
What was the best
and worst part of your experience?
Best part: hearing her
voice and emotion. Worst part: feeling as if that was the last time I'd hear
from her in life other than possibly in dreams.
Has your life
changed specifically as a result of your experience?
Yes
Daily
life most often seems unmanageable. Marital problems were an issue before this
and became more difficult after. I talk to God a lot more now.
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Yes My belief in God was effected in a positive well needed manner.
Did
the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death,
afterlife, God, etc.?
Yes
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?
No
Did
you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience
that could be verified later?
No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?
Continued sadness, anger, loneliness.
Was
the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher
or web site?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life,
medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
Yes
When
I shake her Urn I feel her in my heart. When I hold the lock of hair I cut from
her head while preparing her body for the service, or hold the bracelet I had
put on her for the service I feel her in my heart. When I wear or hold the
earrings she was wearing when she passed I feel close to her. The same applies
when I touch and smell the dress I put on her for the viewing.
Did
you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or
other spiritual event?
Uncertain
Did
the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively
describe your experience?
Yes