The first occurrence was the night of her memorial. A light came on in the kitchen when my son was in the living area. He thought it was me and went to see what I was doing. The light as it had come on, went off automatically. He came to my room to find me. I had not been in the kitchen, On March 17, the same thing occurred again. My husband this time was sitting in the living room and he came and got me and he also had thought it was me in the kitchen. When he went in the kitchen the light again clicked off. It was shortly after midnight and my son was working. They were married on my birthday. Since it was shortly after midnight, I understood it was her wedding anniversary.  Months later I was in the kitchen trying to clean out some old jars that were saved and boxes that were outdated and almost empty when the globe on the light came down a couple of inches by my feet. I felt she was not happy I was getting rid of the things she had saved. My son felt her touch him during the first couple of days. She did appear in his dreams. When she died, many friend experienced some strange occurrences, phones ringing, doors opening. I don't know if they were real or not.  

I know when someone dies suddenly it seems like they are disorientated a bit and are trying to get someone's attention. (like minutes after my sister died recently, a picture fell off my wall knocking down things, my baby picture hanging in another room was still hanging but the frame was torn apart on top. (I was the closest to her because I had cared for her.) At the same time my other two sisters, who lived a long distance woke up and felt great uneasiness.

One prayed Mom and Dad would come and show her the way. She had been afraid of dying and not sure there was a God. 

When my husband died in 11/06. Terri was present. I could not see her but he could. He was talking to her, I was trying to call for help but I could hear him talking to her. He told me she was there, he told me to call my son. I told him it was okay, she was there to make sure he found the way, she was there to help. 

One of the last times she appeared in my sons dreams was almost like a goodbye.

She appeared in both his dream and someone he knew and later married. Almost like she was leaving and it would be okay. She just kind of smile in the other persons dream like and acknowledgement.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            Uncertain

I did not, my son did. and my husband did.

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   yes, my son said he felt her touch him.

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  it was a touch of trying to comfort

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  don't think so

Did you see the deceased?         Uncertain

I did not, The lights that turned on  had never done that in the several years my son lived there and did not again for the year we were there to help. When my husband was dying, she looked very much the same. He did not know that he was looking at a spirit.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            solid

            How much of the deceased did you see?       all

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       yes, age of death

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            well, as if she alive without illness.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           ? My husband did not. He only knew she was with us.

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No comment

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Uncertain

I think the lights were and acknowledgement. My son had spoke and her Mom at the memorial. The wedding anniversary was just letting us know. I sensed a bit of her feeling annoyed when I was getting rid of some of her thing when the light globe fell by my feet, the light bulb was never touched until I guess it burned out one day and the on and off light occurred only those times.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  no

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           Too many unexplained events. It's not the first time such things have occurred. Also sometimes thing happen that feel like they have been lined up for the occurrence of and event. Like a line of dominos and you push one and they all fall into a place connected.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   Uncertain

mine was not, only my son had dreams of her presence.

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           maybe confusion, The lights coming on and off were visual. But over all I think we all question what is going on, could this have happened, was Terri trying to reach up or give us a message? I think we all came to the same conclusion.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          I think with my son. I think that it was comforting to Terri's son that his Mother came to take Paw, to heaven.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      knowing they still exist and the loss of it all.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         Uncertain                  Describe:            I value life more and realize how fragile it is. 

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No      

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  Uncertain            I think it all supports the believe life continues as I have unexplainable experiences of life after death.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

I had such a pact with my late husband. I did not with my daughter in law, we did not expect her to die so young or to bury her.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            maybe confusion, more evidence of life after death, and maybe and awareness all people don't go to the light as soon as death occurs. Maybe they don't know, maybe it is a choice.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           Yes

The night my husband came to get me out of our room, he did not understand what had occurred but felt he had witnessed something out of the ordinary. He felt Terri had turned the lights on. I understood, because my son was working and I knew it had just turned his wedding anniversary. Her death was a shock to everyone.

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you see a light?           Uncertain

I did not see a light with Terri or my husband, I was not with Terri at her time of death, and I was in shock at my husbands, (we had been told he was not close to death at that time by hospices that day, even though we had concerns things were seriously wrong. I do not know if I would have seen a light.