Linda H ADCs
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1.
John has always loved the shape of the moon between full and half full. “What a
lovely gibbous moon,” he’d say. A few nights after he died, I was in Vancouver
sleeping on my sister’s deck. I woke up in the middle of the night to find him
showing me this huge, blood-red gibbous moon. I saw the moon for 3 nights in a
row from 1 am to 4 am. My sister watched it with me one night. We took photos.
2. A few nights later, I sat on our deck watching the biggest, most stupendous lightning storm I have ever seen - a storm that went on for hours with thousands of lightning bolts that did not cause any fires or injuries. We seldom get lightening in this part of the world. Many people took photos.
3.
This is from a book I wrote for family/friends so it is a bit poetic but here
goes: Last year, as summer became autumn became winter I added blankets to
clothes and snuggled into myself while watching John’s nightly light shows. I
love how we show up for each other each night. On clear nights, the constant
light from the stars provides a stunning backdrop for the silhouettes of trees,
clouds, shooting stars and electrical light shows. With the help of a night sky
map, I locate the ladle and bowl of the Big Dipper, the W of Cassiopeia, and the
tail of Draco the Dragon in between. On nights when mists and rain curtain the
night skies, the clouds glow faintly with light from the Earth. As I sit, shades
of roses, purples, mossy greens provide the backdrop for a subtler light show.
The first few times, it took my eyes a little time to receive, absorb and trust
the reality of the tiny sprinkles of phosphorescent sparkles dancing through the
sky in slow motion shimmering streamers – sometimes climbing high in the sky
then cascading downward. Like a slow motion movie of champagne bursting out of a
bottle right after the cork popped off, the sparkles bubbled into thin strands
of falling mist. One night a
fountain of sparkles lit up the top branches of the Douglas Fir Tree with tiny
twinkles while bright balls and sheets of lightning flashed in the clouds. John
and I were both fascinated by the psychology of illusions. Simply put, this is
the study of how our perceptions of pictures, objects or events transform
depending on the different ways the stimulus in the foreground and what is going
on in the background combine with our internal perspectives. I like to describe
this shifting of shapes, forms and images as “deep looking”. Visual artists tend
to become very good at looking deeply by combining what is there in different
ways, shifting back and forth from the background to the foreground, changing
points of view, going from 2 dimensions to 3 dimensions and playing with light
and shadows. I began looking deeply into John’s light shows by combining what I
saw in the night sky with this picture I found in Heather Niderost’s book about
her son Eric’s life after his death in which he describes himself as a light
being. At first I could only find John shining at me in his phosphorescent
light-being manifestation on cloudy nights. I
am now able to find and visit with him every night. I know what I am
seeing is only a partial view of what is behind a veil. I feel as if I am
standing on a street at night, looking at the back-lit silhouettes and shadows
hinting at the beauty inside someone’s cozy home.
Background Information:
Date of experience:
daily since July 29
2020
Length of time between death of deceased and
your experience:
a few days
Was the date of the experience significant in
any way?
John was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor
mid-March 2020. We viewed this as our last adventure together and I promised to
accompany him as long as I could which I assumed would be until he died. Instead
it turns out we are still together with our loving relationship continuing to
evolve.
General geographic location of experience:
Duncan, Vancouver Island, BC, Canada
Details of location of experience and your
activity at the time of experience:
Sitting out on our deck at night.
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately
prior to the experience:
Severe sadness and/or grief feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to
experience:
Fully alert
After your experience, did you consider the
contents of your experience:
Wonderful
Have you had multiple experiences?
Yes Daily since my
husband died on July 24, 2020
Was this experience difficult to express in words?
Yes
I worry that if I try to explain my nightly experiences or try to show
someone what I am experiencing then the ADC will end.
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the
deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something
associated with the deceased?
No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical
contact from the deceased?
Yes
Breathe on my face.
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?
Yes, it feels like when John and I nuzzled our cheeks and chins together
Was anything communicated by the touch?
Love, reassurance, shared meditation.
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in
the surroundings at the time of your experience?
No
Did you see the deceased?
Yes
He is totally different. He manifests as a "light being" - a group of
fairly rapidly moving lights in a circular pattern.
How clearly did the deceased appear?
The lights are very clear however, I sense that I am just glimpsing lights
through a veil. If I could see everything about John I imagine it would be
multicolored, complex and spectacular.
How much of the deceased did you see?
It feels to me as if the lights are a silhouette or a glimpse of his spiritual
being.
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which
they died?
I have had about a dozen vivid dreams with John in
them - he is always younger than when he died. Maybe age 40 to 60?
How healthy did the deceased appear to be?
He appears very healthy in his nightly light being form as well as in his
physical form when we meet in my dreams.
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other
source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?
No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance
or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience last?
I visit with John
every night for 30 to 90 minutes. He is very easy to find.
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
The experience doesn't end. So long as it is dark I can find him.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
Filled with loving reassurance and delight.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?
John doesn't communicate with me in English. It feels like the same kind of
communication I have with the divine when I am in a Quaker Silent Worship Group.
After watching his light shows every night, I began observing, taking photos and
doing a bit of studying about light, reflections
Describe in detail
your feelings/emotions during the experience:
I feel reassured, re-oriented, much more happy, comfortable, at home,
interactive, romantic, funny, in love, so thankful to be visiting with John
every single night.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
Soon after John died a friend sent me a book by Tom Zuba called “Permission
to Mourn: A new way to do grief.” Tom’s book shines a light on our choice to
communicate nightly and "dance between both worlds" as a meaningful, valid and
healthy way for me to mourn.
Nine months later, I was ready for Tom’s next book, “Becoming
Radiant: A new way to do life following the ‘death’ of a beloved.” This book
shines a light on what has been a miraculous year. John’s messages are miracles.
Finding John in his new light being form is miraculous. Our nightly visits with
our new ways of loving and communicating are miraculous. Each moment of our new,
dramatically different romance is miraculous. My feelings of excitement that I
have more and more and more and more as I experience, explore, discover, create,
enjoy and love each moment of my wild and precious life are miraculous too. My
bicycle trips, camping trips, mindful walks, photography, paddling, birding,
art, journaling on the jamboree, faith-filled support groups, loving connections
with family and friends, zoom meetings, courses, cooking, renovating,
story-telling, poetry, dreaming, crying, laughing, singing are all miraculous
ways of becoming radiant. Our cat being so affectionate is miraculous. Writing
and editing books of John’s songs, legacies, life story and our love stories are
miraculous things to be doing. The peace monuments and all our legacy projects
are miraculous. Our radiant adventures with water and light are miraculous.
What was the best and worst part of your experience?
It's all good.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of
your experience?
Yes
Describe:
I am spending a lot of
time experiencing, researching and exploring shared death experiences and after
death communication with John. As a Quaker I believe in direct experience
without the need for a mediator so I don't feel a need to search out mediums or
other spiritual guides. I spend much more time with friends and family who are
interested in developing their death awareness and sharing stories about the
next realm.
Did you have any
changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Yes I am much more
spiritual and much more intentional about developing my spirit. Here is my
morning prayer: "I am a continuation of Mom, Dad, John and everyone who has
contributed their love, teachings, stories, experiences to my life. I thank my
genetic and spiritual ancestors. May I have the courage today to represent them
well. May my mind come alive today to the invisible geography that invites me to
new frontiers. May I follow my heart, lead the life I love and do what I dream
free from fear.
May I live with love and laughter as our legacies ripple ever
outward through my actions."
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life,
death, afterlife, God, etc.?
Yes ’ve loved our 41
year (and counting) romance.
Accentuating the positive, following our natural attractions,
living life adventurously, being mystical, exploring spirituality, embracing
diversity, building community, sharing stories, being creative, connecting with
nature, caring for the places we love.
By continuing to focus on these things, I am continuing to
become all we have loved. Thich Nhat Hanh and other spiritual guides are helping
me find John and find myself. All I have to do to come home to myself and to
John is slow down and pay attention to the breeze on my face, the earth under my
feet, my breath travelling in and out of my lungs, the reflections of light on
water and the sky.
My days are becoming more and more light-hearted. I am
becoming a fulfilling combination of who I have been on my own, who we have been
together, our legacy projects, and my thoughts and actions related to
present-moment living.
I spend some time each evening visiting with John. I love our
nightly meditative practice of breathing together, sharing the highlights of my
day, linking my present life back to our fond memories, and learning
new languages of water reflecting light.
“Through my love for you, I want to express my love for the
whole cosmos, the whole of humanity, and all beings.
By living with you, I want to learn to love everyone and all
species.
If I succeed in loving you, I will be able to love everyone
and all species on Earth. This is the real message of love.”
(Thich Nhat Hanh)
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever
dies first will try to contact the other(s).
Have you ever made such a compact?
No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your
experience that could be verified later?
Yes
I have photos of the blood red moon. The lightning storm has been widely
reported.
I am scared to try to verify my experiences with John as a
light being. Even though I consistently physically see John as a light being
with my eyes every night, this is something I prefer to just enjoy as an
internal private spiritual experience that is part of my spiritual meditative
practices.
What emotions did you feel during the experience?
Awe, Wonder, sacred
vulnerability, openness, at one with the universe, reassured, oriented,
comforted
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
Yes
The first after-death communications were very spectacular - an unpredicted
(and unreported) huge blood red gibbous moon for 3 nights in a row and then the
next week an unpredicted and widely reported lightning storm that went on for
hours but caused no wildfires or injuries.
Did you have any sense of altered space or time?
Yes
It feels timeless and also feels like a regular spiritual practice that
always takes about an hour.
Did you have a sense of knowing, special
knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?
Yes
I remember back to July 2001, exactly 20 years ago when I was 46 and John
was 58. We were right in the middle of our 40 year till-death-do-we-part
romance. We always talked about being so fortunate to be in heaven on earth.
Peacebuilders for our community, In love with each other and our magnificently
diverse world. Now here we are in March 2022. I am 67, John is 1.5 years AD in
his new manifestation - an incredibly handsome and sexy (in an other-worldly
sort of way) light being. We are at the very beginning of our between-two worlds
romance. We are leaving our peace-building legacies. We continue to be in Heaven
on Earth together for eternity.
Peace and love are all around.
Did you become aware of future events?
Yes
One of my dreams I was shown my future death by John and Thich Nhat Hanh
which they say will be far off in the future and will be an easy death during my
old age. I was advised to stay active during the day and get lots of sleep each
night. I was also advised to face north at night to find John's stars (between
casiopea constellation and the big dipper) and that I would be able to always
find John. That has certainly been accurate. I was also advised to focus on
light and love which I have been doing.
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other
special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the
experience?
Yes
I am much more aware of being in heaven here on earth and being surrounded
by miracles. My photography has become quite incredible because I am so much
more aware of light and reflections. I participate in after death communication
in the same way I participate in birding. I saunter through my life always on
the alert for movement. When something moves/shifts/changes I stop, notice, and
identify it as an after death communication experience.
Did you experience a separation of your
consciousness from your body?
Uncertain
I feel as if my spirit began separating from my physical body more and more
as my physical care of John increased. I felt as if I was several personalities
at once: (lover enjoying romantic times together, caregiver, confidante,
listener, writer, communicator with the outside world, facilitator of our
facebook support group, cook, cleaner, philosopher, social organizer, technical
assistant and on and on and on busy from first thing in the morning till late at
night). To manage all of this my spirit and consciousness had to split and
divide up the responsibilities. This is from my book for family and friends: The
day John died, my spirit was swept into the waterfall with his. When I
eventually swam to the surface to re-unite with my body, I found myself at one
end of what seemed to be a rainbow or maybe the start of the magical yellow
brick road from the Wizard of Oz. Miraculously, John was there with me on a
bridge made of our love that had grown long enough and strong enough to stretch
all the way from this world to the next.
This book reflects our radiant adventures exploring the water and light
that links our two worlds.
Did you meet or see any other beings other than
the deceased?
Yes
There are lots of other light beings watching over me. I imagine they are
my relatives and friends who have died.
Did you see a light?
Yes
This is the main aspect of my communication with John.
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a
place other than the location described above?
No
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other
researcher or web site?
Yes
www.sharedcrossing.com
I have been interviewed. I am taking their SDE course. I may do an internship
with them.
I recently joined the Love After Life Facebook group which is where I found out
about this website.
Is there anything else you would
like to add regarding your experience?
I am trying to set my experiences into a research context and so I appreciate
the research being done by you and by William Peters/Michael Kinsella. I have a
background in qualitative research and know the importance of gathering
information through open questions and then identifying themes, sub-themes and
key elements.
Were there any associated medications or substances with the
potential to affect the experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life,
medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
Yes
I have these experiences every single night.
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body
experience or other spiritual event?
Yes
Occasional vivid predictive dreams. Now I have vivid predictive or
insightful dreams often.
Did the questions asked and information you
provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?
Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to
improve this questionnaire.
Maybe get an idea of the types of ADC's being experienced and
their frequency and then ask us to describe the most significant in detail?