Laura H's
ADC
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The weather that October night was breezy and warm. My husband was just getting over a nasty cold, so I was sleeping in the guest room. I decided to sleep with the windows open because the weather was so nice. Just before I turned out the light, I said goodnight to Seymour, our 14 year old sheepdog mix, whose kennel was visible and within earshot of the window.
Someone was calling my name. I turned to see my father standing in the doorway of the room. He looked as he did before the cancer had taken its toll. At the time of his death, he was thin, bald, jaundiced, and looked much older than his 62 years. When he came to me, he was healthy and his full head of hair looked a bit disheveled. I thought it was because the wind was blowing so hard, as that was the last sound I remembered before falling asleep.
He was wearing the casual clothes that had become, he had often joked, his uniform: blue jeans, a western style shirt, and walking shoes. After years of wearing suits and ties, he was determined to be comfortable in his retirement. When I saw him standing in my door, I remember thinking that he was wearing the exact clothing he'd worn the previous Christmas. The only thing which seemed odd was the fact that he was carrying a shovel.
I asked, "why are you here?" He replied, "I've come to help bury Seymour. I know Marty is sick and Seymour was such a good dog." I sprang awake but Daddy was gone. I looked at the clock and then out the window. The sun had risen but was not yet bright. I looked toward the kennel and Seymour appeared to be sleeping, though I thought it odd he was sleeping outside of his doghouse. I remember feeling confused. I had not dreamt of Daddy since his death. I could not understand why he would come to me with such an odd message.
I went to make coffee and then opened the back door to greet the day. Seymour did not get up to greet me as he usually did. I stepped onto the deck and looked down at the kennel. The wind was blowing his black and white fur, but he did not stir. I cried out for my husband and told him that our beloved dog had died. He asked why I thought it to be true. I told him about Daddy's visit. My husband buried Seymour alone. I watched from the window and felt Daddy's comforting presence.
Since that
time, I've had dreams of which Daddy was a part but never another one in which
we've actually communicated. I've come to realize that our love of dogs was
another of the bonds we shared. Daddy bought our daughter her first puppy.
When that dog was stolen, he encouraged us to get her another one. "Every child
needs a dog", he was fond of saying. I think he knew that every child, no
matter how old, needs their dad to get them through the loss of a loved and
faithful canine companion.
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an
awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling
or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or
hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you
heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
He said he had come to help my
husband bury our dog. He was in the room and spoke very clearly.
Did the voice or
sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not
hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?
It was an external voice.
I saw his mouth forming the words as he said them.
If you heard a
voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the
deceased made when they were alive?
It was his voice, distinctive and
strong.
Is there any
possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
No.
Was there any
possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
No.
Did you feel a touch or
experience any physical contact from the deceased?
No
Did you see the
deceased?
Yes
He looked as he did before the
cancer and chemotherapy. He was dressed in his usual manner.
How clearly did
the deceased appear?
As solidly as he was in life.
How much of the
deceased did you see?
All of him.
Did the deceased
appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
He appeared to be the age at which
he died.
How healthy did
the deceased appear to be?
Healthy. At death, he was thin,
bald, jaundiced and looked very aged. When I saw him, he looked as he had
before becoming ill.
Is there any
possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
No.
Did you smell a distinct
smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience
last?
I am unsure, but I think it was
only a few moments.
Was the beginning and end of
the experience gradual or more sudden?
Beginning was gradual; the
ending was sudden.
Could you sense the emotions
or mood of the deceased?
Yes
He seemed sad that he had bad
news for me.
Did the deceased give you
information you did not previously know?
Yes. He told me our dog
had passed away. The dog had been fine the previous day, or so we thought. Our
vet says he most likely died due to a congenital heart defect.
How do you currently view the
reality of your experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain why
you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:
The message my father brought to
me was factual.
Was the experience
dream like in any way?
Yes
I was sleeping, so I know it
was a dream.
Describe in detail your
feelings/emotions during the experience:
Happiness to see my father again.
Perplexed as to why he was there. Confused by his message.
Was there any emotional
healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
I knew that Daddy was still
watching over us and that he was whole again.
What was the best and worst
part of your experience?
The best was seeing Daddy, even
though it was for such a brief time. The worst was learning that the message he
imparted was true.
Has your life changed
specifically as a result of your experience?
No
Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No
Did the
experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife,
God, etc.?
Uncertain
I've always believed in my church's teachings of life everlasting, and that
death is a beginning instead of an ending.
Death
Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?
No
Did
you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience
that could be verified later?
Yes I was told
that our dog had died and it was true.
What
emotions did you feel during the experience?
Confusion and
sadness
Have
you shared this experience with others?
Yes I've shared my experience with my family members. Knowing daddy as they
did, no one was skeptical or reacted negatively.
Have
you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or
web site?
No
Is
there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?
Only
that I'm glad to have found this website and to learn that many people have had
similar experiences.
Were there any
associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life,
medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did
you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or
other spiritual event?
No
Did
the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively
describe your experience?
Yes