Kim H's
ADC
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My parents were throwing a party at our house for my uncle and grandmothers birthdays (which were 1 day apart). Many of my relatives including my uncle were in town for the party. I was only 4 years old. I remember feeling overwhelmed that so many people were in our house. I also recall that my grandmother was not feeling well that day so she told my father that she was going to rest for a while and he could pick her up later. ( She lived over an hour away).
That evening my father and uncle called her several times and she didn't answer. I remember seeing my father calling her again and wondering why she did not answer and my mother saying that she probably was napping. I then told my mother that she was not napping, she had died. My mother immediately got upset and Asked me why I said that. I told her I said it because it was true. She then told me not to repeat what I said.
My father and uncle decided to travel to my grandmothers house after still not reaching her. When they arrived they discovered her laying across her bed. She was in fact dead.
The evening of her funeral I was laying on my bed looking out of the window. She appeared in the window wearing the pink dress she was cremated in. She was smiling at me and said that she was ok. At first, I was terrified as she looked like a healthier version of herself but was not a solid figure but she comforted me by saying she was ok.
I ran and told my
parents that I saw her and she told me to tell them she was ok. Naturally they
told me I must just be tired and to go to bed. I had several more encounters
that my parents experienced after that as well. Now as an adult, I asked my
mother if she remembered what I told her. She does remember but told me that I
scared her and still can't really come to terms as I have had other experiences
when other family members transitioned.
Was this
experience difficult to express in words?
No
Did you hear the
deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
I clearly heard
my grandmother say that she was ok. I then heard my conscience tell me to let
"them" know she's ok.
Did
the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you,
or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was
communicated?
It was inside of me but was her voice
If
you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound
the deceased made when they were alive?
Yes
Is
there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
No, there was no one
around
Was
there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
No
Did you feel a
touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?
No
Did you see the
deceased?
Yes
She was a healthier
more vibrant version of herself but was not a solid figure.
How
clearly did the deceased appear?
Somewhat transparent
How
much of the deceased did you see?
The top half. She was
on the other side of the window.
Did
the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
Yes, only more
vibrant.
How
healthy did the deceased appear to be?
She seemed healthier
and more vibrant as previously stated.
Is
there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
No.
Did you smell a
distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No comment
How long did the
experience last?
A minute or
two.
Was the beginning
and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
Sudden
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
She seemed happy.
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?
No
How do you
currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
I have no idea how I would know at 4 years old that my grandmother was not
picking up her phone because she was "dead". I have had several other
experiences since that time.
Was
the experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail
your feelings/emotions during the experience:
I was confused as to
why me telling my parents made them more upset at the time.
Was there any
emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
It was my first
experience with death and I felt like I was coached through it by the deceased.
What was the best
and worst part of your experience?
The best part was
knowing that my grandmother is happy because she deserves to be. The worst is my
parents shunning the experience.
Did you have
any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Uncertain
I was very young so I think the experience shaped my views.
Did the experience
give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God,
etc.?
Uncertain
I am still not very clear on how to feel. I think it mostly is due to others
reactions when dealing with death.
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
Yes
Yes, when my moms
mother died in 2004, I held her hand as she was dying and asked her to let me
know she was ok. The next morning, walking out of the nursing home where she
died, my then boyfriend ( now fianc) and I saw several doves flying over us. We
then went back to my moms house and opened the door, and all of her lights
turned on in the house when we sat down.
Did you observe or
hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be
verified later?
No
What emotions
did you feel during the experience?
I was sad because I was
unsure that anyone believed me. I thought that my parents would be happy like I
was to get that message from my grandmother.
Was the experience
witnessed or experienced by others?
Yes
My mother
Did you have any
sense of altered space or time?
No
Did you have a
sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?
No
Did you become
aware of future events?
No
Did you have any
psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did
not have prior to the experience?
Uncertain
I am not sure. I did
have other experiences after.
Did you experience
a separation of your consciousness from your body?
No
Did you meet or see
any other beings other than the deceased?
No
Did you see a
light?
No
Did any part of
your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described
above?
No
Have you shared
this experience with others?
Yes
I told my fianc. I am sure that he believed me because he also was there when I
had an experience when my other grandmother crossed over but I do not speak to
him about it much because I do not feel he is very comfortable with it.
Have you shared
this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
No
Is there anything
else you would like to add regarding your experience?
No.
Were there any
associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience?
No
Following the
experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or
substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you ever in
your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other
spiritual event?
Yes
I have had several,
mostly good with the exception of one.
Did the questions
asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience?
Yes
Because I was so
young, only the main details are vivid.
Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire. No.