Kevin K's
ADC
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My son had died less
than a month before the experience occurred. I was having a particularly bad
day. I had sobbed through most of the day although I was at work in my office.
After work I went to a gym where my son and I worked out together. It was
something special we shared. While in the gym I smelled my son's odor. It was
strong (My daughter, my wife and I have all smelled his odor at various times
after his death and we all recognize the same smell.) It seemed odd that that
the odor would be in the gym and so strong so I was skeptical of whether it was
his odor or coming from somewhere else. The odor was strong enough and strange
enough that other people at the gym commented on it. After working out, I went
to the house where my son lived so that I could get on his computer which
contained photos of him. I went to be alone with his memory and to grieve
privately. As a sat at his desk I entertained serious thoughts of how to end my
life. I told my son that it was just too difficult to go on without him. I
missed him too much. Suddenly, my car alarm sounded. At first I did not think
it was my car because the alarm had never gone off before that I could recall
and I had not locked the care. Also, if it were to work I would have to hit a
series of buttons to activate it. I never touched the buttons. I was aggravated
that I was interrupted in my grieving. I walked through the house through the
garage to the car. The very second I reached the car the alarm stopped. Both
before and after that experience the alarm has never gone off unless I actively
press the buttons and even then it will go off perhaps one time in 20.
Basically, the car alarm does not work and never has. It was a message from my
son that although it is fine to grieve and be sad, it was not acceptable to
entertain dark thoughts.
Was this
experience difficult to express in words?
No
Did you hear the
deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?
No
Did you feel a
touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?
No
Did you see the
deceased?
No
Did you smell a
distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
Yes
What
smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?
See above. I smelled it
in the gym where we worked out together. It was his odor and my wife, daughter
and I have all recognized as his while together.
Was
the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?
His odor
Was
anything communicated by the smell?
just his presence
Is
there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any
other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?
I don't think
so. I was very strong. Others smelled it. Also, the door to the outside was open
so the smell would have had to come from the outside but the odor was only in
this one part of the gym and nowhere else. It lasted for a while as I kept going
back to smell it.
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased?
No
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?
no
How do you
currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Was
the experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in
detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:
It was less than a
month after my son's death and shortly after his memorial. It was the day of my
deepest despair
Was there any
emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
I knew definitely
that I could continue to grieve but that I needed to go on living and not
entertain dark thoughts
Has your life
changed specifically as a result of your experience?
Yes
Describe:
With this and
other experiences my wife, daughter and I have started to develop a spirituality
that we did not have before
Did
you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No
Did
the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death,
afterlife, God, etc.?
Yes We have had many messages from my son that he is still with us but in a
different form.
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
No
Did
you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience
that could be verified later?
N0
response
What emotions did you feel during the experience?
I
felt good because it was obvious that my son was watching out for me and my
family and giving me direction
Was
the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
No
Did
any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location
described above?
No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes I tell any one that I feel could benefit from it
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher
or web site?
No
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect
the experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life,
medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did
you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or
other spiritual event?
No
Did
the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively
describe your experience?
Yes