Kathy H's
ADC
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At my
mother's service-behind the Hospice. A minister conducted and he had Xeroxed
sheets to follow with a rainbow across the corner of the sheet-at the very end
of the service a beautiful rainbow appeared in the sky and a large bird landed
on the cupola that we were under. About 30 people saw it. A day after the
service my 25 year old daughter pointed out that my mother's clock was broke in
her car which we were using while in Florida-it had stopped at the time of her
death. The power went out in my sister's house as she was writing the bio for
my mother's service. The power went out at the Edward Jones office while my
sister and I were discussing my mother's will and trust with her financial
advisor, Dianne. A lot of light bulbs blew out in my and other close relatives
homes for a couple of weeks. The TV turned off while my husband and I were
watching it about a week after her death. Around the same time, I was painting
at my kitchen table and listening to Rush Limbaugh on the radio (my mother
thought he was a pompous ass) I had to run to my husbands dental office with
some papers pertaining to my mother's estate and didn't turn off the radio, when
I got back it took me a while to realize that Rush didn't sound at all like
himself and I thought maybe he had a bad cold-the station was on a different
station. My radio station has changed several times while driving. The last
time it happened, I said :cut it out Ma and it went back to my channel. My
sister is taking my Mom's death very hard and one day a couple of weeks after
her death, Bonnie's cell phone rang but with a different song. Thursday of this
last week I told my Mom that I'm fine and that I really don't need more signs
but that my sister could use one-I told her that Bonnie was happy with the ring
tone incident and maybe she should do that again. My sister emailed me and told
me that on Thursday her ring tone rang the wrong tone again. There have
probably been other incidents that I'm not remembering right now as there have
obviously been quite a few. I did whisper into my Mom's ear that last day (she
was in a coma) that I'd love for her to send me a sign as it would give me great
comfort. but I'm starting to feel that this is over-kill. Is she just having a
good time-which would be lovely-or is she trying to tell me something?
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an
awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling
or smelling them?
Yes
Did you hear the deceased or
hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you
heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
A couple of weeks ago I pushed my
message machine and there was a call that was just static. At the end of the
recording I heard "Bink?" in her voice. I played it back and the word wasn't
there. My nickname has Been Bink since I was 2.
Did the voice or
sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not
hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?
seemed to be part of the
recording
If you heard a
voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the
deceased made when they were alive?
identical
Is there any
possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
Perhaps-don't know
Was there any
possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
no
Did you feel a touch or
experience any physical contact from the deceased?
Yes
A soft touch in the small of my
back about 3 times as I was falling asleep-thought it was my cat-turned the
light on-no cat.
Was the touch
familiar or unfamiliar?
Familiar as my cat sometimes noses me at nite if she's hungry
Was anything
communicated by the touch?
nope
Is there any
possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
Could be I suppose
Did you see the
deceased?
No
Did you smell a distinct
smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How do you currently view the
reality of your experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain why
you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:
I don't think I'm crazy and these
types of things haven't happened before. I'd just like to know what she's
trying to tell me.
Was the experience
dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail your
feelings/emotions during the experience:
At first Holy Cow. Now, what are
you trying to tell me.
Was there any emotional
healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
It made me feel that there is
indeed something after and that she's somewhere.
What was the best and worst
part of your experience?
Best part she honored my request.
Worst part I wonder if I'm missing something.
Has your life changed
specifically as a result of your experience?
No
Did you have any changes
of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No
Did the
experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife,
God, etc.?
Yes Initially I figured she was honoring my wish for a sign
but isn't this rather excessive? Why?
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?
Just that
I asked her to send me a sign. I figured there might be one or two-but all
these?
Did you observe or hear
anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be
verified later?
Yes
Well, as I explained, some of the occurrences involved other-some not.
What emotions did you feel
during the experience?
At first relief and comfort and
Holy cow-now what are you trying to tell me.
Was the experience witnessed
or experienced by others?
Sometimes people were
present-sometimes not
Did you see a light?
No
Although, in her process of
dying, I told her to go to the light. I thought she was out of it at the time
but without opening her eyes she said "do you have a book"? and I said "yes"
and she said "go read it" So I went to the lobby and read my book.
Did any part of your
experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described
above?
Only the places I mentioned.
Have you shared this
experience with others?
Yes
I've shared these experiences with people close to me and her.
Have you shared this
experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
No
Is there anything else you
would like to add regarding your experience?
nope
Were there any associated
medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?
No
Following the experience, have
you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which
reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you ever in your life have
a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?
maybe. I was near death at
the age of 17. Mono, hepatitis, strep throat and full blown sunstroke. I truly
believed that I was going-and it was OK. But then I woke up a lot of hours
later in the hospital and was surprised to be alive.
Did the questions asked and
information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience?
Yes
Please offer any suggestions
you may have to improve this questionnaire.
Can you give me any input as to
what if anything she's trying to tell me. I do kind of get the feeling that
she's having fun with a new toy.