Kandi C ADC
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There were actually 2 different experiences that are associated with each other.
My father Kent had skin cancer squamous carcinoma that usually is not
fatal. It traveled to his lungs when
it was removed improperly and went to his brain at the end.
I moved in with my parents to care for him before he was symptomatic and
stayed until he passed. On or about
August 26, 2016 I woke up to find my dad unresponsive.
He had cancer. He was not
bedridden and was normal mentally so it was an emergency and I called 911.
The hospital said he was in a septic coma.
They had done routine blood work a couple days earlier and the lab called
to say there was a contamination problem with equipment like the needle used to
draw his blood and his culture came back positive for Staph Aurerus which was
probably the cause of his coma like state.
They said there was no chance of him coming out of the coma and that he
would likely die within 24 hours or so.
They said we could let him die at the hospital if we wanted to as long as
a family member remained there at all times.
I was surprised when I woke up to him yelling at me to get his urinal the
next morning. So was the hospital.
He was awake, yet not all 'there' and kind of floated in and out
mentally. He was confused and asked
the same questions at times. My dad
was a pro ball player that helped to get a lot of other young guys into playing
pro baseball. He had a long list of
men who loved him. One was a
baseball player named Erick Raich Cleveland Indians.
Erick wanted to talk to my dad before he died and kept calling but my dad
didn't want to cry or feel bad so he avoided the calls. Erick had lost his son
and when I told my dad that he agreed to talk to Erick but it never happened. I
felt I needed help dealing with what was happening so I called my Aunt who was
on the next plane to get there. I
had to leave to pick her up at the airport.
I had one of the guys he scouted to major league baseball sit with him.
I was on my way back when I got a call from my moms cell phone.
It was my dad. He asked where
I was? I told him I was trying to
hurry and on my way back to be with him.
I was like 20 minutes away.
He said, its ok. you don't have to
hurry. I'm not there anymore.
I said what are you talking about dad?
Your at the hospital, St Jude's.
It's gonna be ok Dad. I'm gonna
speed it up to get there. He said
no, don't hurry. It won't help.
I'm not there anymore. He said
just listen to me for a moment.
Cause a moment is all I have. Then
he said can you hear that? I'm being
paged. I'm being paged like a doctor
can you hear it? They are paging me.
Like a surgeon paged to the operation room.
I just wanted to tell you not to hurry so you don't get in an accident on
your way back. I'm not there
anymore. I have to go and he hung
up. that was the last time he spoke.
I had him brought home to die that night.
He was in and out of mentally.
he passed away 2 days later.
And Erick Raich (who he loved) never
got to speak with him. When I called
Erick to say he passed he was very upset about not being able to talk to my Dad.
I felt bad. He was so upset
he couldn't talk and had to go. He
couldn't get to California in time.
He was hurting pretty bad. So I
wanted to find something to make him feel better.
Some sort of souvenir maybe about baseball and their past together to
give to him to show how much he meant to my Dad.
I got a box down from the closet.
The same old box I had gone through a million times with stuff from the Connick Mack
World Series of
baseball where they played together.
I know the contents in that box by heart.
I have seen it a million times.
I was surprised when looking through it because a picture I have never
seen before fell out from in-between the side of the box where the flaps were.
It was a picture of my dad with Erick Raich and another player
Rick Burleson with their baseball
trophy in my back yard. I know that
picture was never there before. Then
I turned it over because there was writing on the back.
You have to understand. My
dad avoided writing. He was dyslexic
and never wrote. Yet here was his
handwriting and it said 'Dear Erick - If ever I had a son, it would be you.
You know where to find me if you need me.
I will be right here. Love,
Kent'. I was floored.
I hurried to take a picture of front and back with my cell and sent it to
Erick. I had to call and let it ring
to get him to come to his phone.
When he saw what my dad wrote he freaked out.
Why didn't anyone tell me? I
never knew he loved me like that. I
needed to know that. And he wanted
me to send it to him next day air as quickly as possible.
I set it on the desk and went to prepare for mailing it.
When I returned I found the picture but the text was gone.
There was a glass sitting on the glass desk that had ice and watered down
soda in it. It had dripped water all
over and erased the black letters of the message my Dad had written to Erick.
It was gone. We couldn't fix
it. Just like it
was never there in the first place.
If I had not taken a picture of it just moments before - no one would
ever know that it was real.
Was this experience difficult to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the
deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something
associated with the deceased?
No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical
contact from the deceased?
Yes
I was suddenly filled with love peace and emotion - like something
wonderful happened when I found his message and gave it to who it was written
for
Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?
No physical touching - just emotional peace
Was anything communicated by the touch?
yes - the letter he wrote that I found which disappeaered a while later
Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in
the surroundings at the time of your experience?
none what so ever
Did you see the deceased?
No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance
or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience last?
a couple minutes of
peace
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
does not apply
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
I felt great love and adoration that my dad had for Erick
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?
Only by directing me to that box to find that picture that was never in the box
before and discovering the message my dad wrote then getting it to who he wanted
to have it
How do you currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
Because I found the picture that was never there
before with my dads writing on it and I took a picture of it.
It was real
Was the experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail
your feelings/emotions during the experience:
I felt in a hurry or anxious to find something that would make Erick feel better
as a souvenir. As if I had to find
it no matter what
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
Healing for Erick whos young son had just died in a car accident.
He needed my dad and tried hard to speak with him before he died.
He was hurting and finding that picture with my dads writing saying how
much he loved Erick was just what he needed at the time.
What was the best and worst part of your experience?
Best part was finding the picture.
Worst was seeing that the text was gone and had been disolved by water
Has your life changed specifically as a result of
your experience?
No
Did you have any
changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No
Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? No
Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever
dies first will try to contact the other(s).
Have you ever made such a compact?
No
Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your
experience that could be verified later?
No
What emotions did you
feel during the experience?
relief
Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
Yes
I took a picture and shared it with the person it was meant to go to
Did you have any sense of altered space or time?
No
Did you have a sense of knowing, special
knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?
No
Did you become aware of future events?
No
Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other
special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the
experience?
No
Did you experience a separation of your
consciousness from your body?
No
Did you meet or see any other beings other than
the deceased?
No
Did you see a light?
No
Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a
place other than the location described above?
No
Have you shared this experience with others?
No
Have you shared this
experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
No
Is there anything else you would
like to add regarding your experience?
I wonder if my dad sent me to find that picture and get it to Erick?
Or if it was all just coincidence
Were there any associated medications or substances with the
potential to affect the experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life,
medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body
experience or other spiritual event?
No
Did the questions asked and information you
provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?
Yes
Please offer any suggestions you may have to
improve this questionnaire.
too long. too many
questions