On or about 9/26/04 I was awakened by the sensation that my wife was pressing her knee into the back of my left leg. I could feel her body pressed against mine, with her left hand resting on my left shoulder.  My back was of course turned away from her. I was, by then, awake and immediately attempted to roll over to face her. She "physically" restrained me with her left hand against my shoulder to prevent me from turning over to face her. I never saw her. It was dark  of course, but her touch was "physical". She spoke to me and said "Don't look at me"(gently). I respected her wish that I not look at her.  I had an appreciation for the fact that this was a supernatural experience and I did not want her to leave.  I just laid there and "absorbed" the joy of being with her. She did not speak again, nor did I. I estimate the total time that elapsed to be no more that 20 seconds from the time I felt her touch until she "left". I knew that she came to comfort and assure me that she was at peace. When she told me not to look at her, I "understood" the reason had something to do with the process she was involved in.

During a subsequent bed-time experience(10/15/04), I did see her face and we had a short conversation.  She looked younger, had a glow to her countenance, and her beautiful long hair was restored.  During the second experience I asked if she would "ask the Lord to take me soon so I could be with her?" She replied with a loving, gentle smile, "We'll see".  Initially I had the sensation of being "whisked" across the bed to her side while asleep. The sudden "whisked" sensation woke me up and I instantly "knew" that she was present even before she was revealed to me.   Then she appeared laying on her back with her head resting on my left arm and smiling at me. It was dark in the room and I later realized I could not have physically seen her face. Also, after she disappeared I realized that my body was still on my side of the bed, and that my body had not moved.  I believe the experience occurred while I was "out-of-body".  At first when I tried to talk with her I could not articulate my words. That experience also lasted about 20 seconds. I then went back to a very peaceful sleep.

Was this experience difficult to express in words? 

No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?           

No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?         

Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:  

I heard her say "Don't look at me" in a gentle manner on 9/26/05. During the experience of 10/15/05 I heard her say "we'll see".

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated? 

The experience can only be described as vividly real and normal to all of my senses. She was in every sense "alive" to me.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?          

Her voice

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?          

No

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?  

No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?           

Yes

She pressed her body against mine and actually restrained me from turning over in the bed to face her.

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?  

The touch was her normal touch.

            Was anything communicated by the touch? 

Her touch was warm, and tender.

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? 

No.

Did you see the deceased?        

Yes

My wife had of course been ill from  cancer for over a year. She had lost her hair, her hearing, and had gone from 130 lbs to about 85 lbs as a result of cancer treatment. She appeared to be in perfect health and more youthful than she was when we first met in 1997. She could have passed for 30.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            As I stated before, she was real, alive, solid, and completely "present".

            How much of the deceased did you see?       I actually was focused on her upper torso -from about the waist up- during the experience when I looked at her.

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       She looked younger and in perfect health.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            She presented herself to be in perfect health, with a beautiful, long head of hair. She was thin and emaciated when she died. She had also lost her hair.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?     

No

            What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?          

I was not aware of any scent associated with her.

How long did the experience last?       

Approximately 20 seconds-each experience.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?        

I would have to characterize the experience as sudden in onset and ending.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?          

Yes

Her emotions were clear to discern, as real and vivid as any experience I have ever had.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? 

I can only infer subjective information relative to  my wife telling me not to look at her, the vividness of her touch, the glow of her face, and the total restoration of her vitality.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?          

Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:         

Although both ADC experiences were initialized while in a sleep state, I was awake during the contact. I have never had a single dream in my life this vivid and real. My mother died when I was 12. My mother raised me without a father until she remarried when I was 7. We slept together, bathed together, and I worshiped her.  When she died it was the greatest loss. In subsequent months I dreamed about my mother but never experienced anything similar to what occured with my wife.  I know my dream patterns and there is a world of difference between my dreams and my ADC contact with my wife. A dream is in the mind.  My contact with my wife was external and I was awake during the experiences.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?  

No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:          

Joy, warmth, and an ecstatic sense of peace. The euphoria I was left with precluded any sadness when my wife ended the contact.  Even though I wanted to go with her, I was blessed with such joy  knowing she was in a much better place and no longer suffering. I believe that I experienced a few brief seconds of eternity.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          

Yes

Oh yes! Absolutely. As I said, a sense of peace that my wife is with the Lord, and also very near.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?     

The best part of course was seeing and touching my wife again. The worst-not being allowed to join her where she is yet.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?        

Yes                 Describe:     

I think my life has changed to the degree that having "experienced" life after death through contact with my wife has left me with immeasurable peace.

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No       Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.? 

Yes     I saw my wife perfectly restored by the power of God's love. I learned how close that "other" dimension (Heaven) is to "our" world.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?       

No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?         

No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?           

I guess I suffered from an anxious expectation that my wife would continue to contact me on a regular basis. That hasn't happened to date.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?          

No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  

No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?   

Uncertain

I seemed to an "understanding" of what was happening in a larger context. I understood the "reasoning" behind why I could not look upon my wife's face during the first contact. It was like "knowing my place" in this experience and having reverance for being so blessed.

Did you become aware of future events?      

No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?    

Yes

I did not realize it at the time, but I am certain my conciousness was extended beyond my body.  I suspect my inability to articulate words was due to conciousness being out-of-sync with my brain. Also my sensation of moving across the bed very swiftly to my wife's side, only to later realize my body had not moved.Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?       

No

Did you see a light?          

Uncertain

I did not see "a light" per se, but a dark bedroom in the middle of the night was illuminated as though a light was on.

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?        

No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?          

No 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?              

Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.   

Nothing comes to mind.