James M's
ADC
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Experience description:
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an
awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling
or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or
hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what
you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
I woke from a sound sleep to see
my father standing at the foot of my bed. After my initial reaction of shock
and surprise, I sat up in bed and greeted him. He responded with a smile and
told me not to worry about getting married in September as he had no objections
and encouraged me to go ahead with my plans. I placed my feet on the floor to
get up and go to him but by the time I reached a standing position, his image
disappeared leaving no trace of his presence.
Did the voice or
sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not
hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?
My father spoke to me in a clearly
and concisely and in his normal manner.
If you heard a
voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the
deceased made when they were alive?
He sounded exactly like I had
remembered him before his demise.
Is there any
possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
No. I was alone in the
apartment. It was early morning and I do not recall any noise or disturbance
that would have awaken me.
Was there any
possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
No.
Did you feel a touch or
experience any physical contact from the deceased?
No
Did you see the
deceased?
Yes
He was dressed in the brown
suit we provided the funeral director for burial. He was also wearing a shirt
and tie and looked exactly like he did when I last saw him alive about one year
prior to his death.
How clearly did
the deceased appear?
Life like.
How much of the
deceased did you see?
His upper legs, torso and head,
all of which, appeared above the end of my bed.
Did the deceased
appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
He appeared to be the age at which
he died
How healthy did
the deceased appear to be?
He appeared healthier than when I
has last seen him. Having been gassed while serving in the Canadian army in
France
during World War 1, he usually had
a drawn expression on his face but he also had a ready smile.
Is there any
possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
No. The bedroom was very sparsely
furnished.
Did you smell a distinct
smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience
last?
Approximately thirty seconds.
Was the beginning and end of
the experience gradual or more sudden?
I awoke and saw him
standing at the foot of the bed but when I got up to approach him, he abruptly
disappeared.
Could you sense the emotions
or mood of the deceased?
Yes
He seemed to be in a good mood
and spoke to me in his typical fashion.
Did the deceased give you
information you did not previously know?
His advice to me greatly
relieved all the apprehension I had about being married so soon after his
demise.
How do you currently view the
reality of your experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain
why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:
I was fully awake and remained
awake for some time after the experience. I was conscious of my surroundings
and felt confident that my father, who was always pragmatic, had purposefully
visited me to relieve my anxiety.
Was the
experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail your
feelings/emotions during the experience:
I was happy and relieved to see
and hear my father but did not have time to form any emotions concerning the
event.
Was there any emotional
healing in any way following the experience?
Uncertain
My fianc and I had decided to
be married on the date already chosen as we wished to be together in the same
household after a rather long separation. This desire would have overcome any
reservations I might have had but having my father express his approval, eased
my mind.
What was the best and worst
part of your experience?
To see my father once more before
loosing him forever was the best part. Seeing him disappear so quickly was the
worst part.
Has your life changed
specifically as a result of your experience?
No
What other attitudes and
beliefs about your experience do you currently have? A
continued respect and admiration of my father who I deeply loved.
Did you have any changes
of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No
Did the experience give you
any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God,
etc.?
Uncertain
Since I have no way of knowing
and have no qualifications to understand what becomes of one after death, the
experience did not significantly change my thoughts on the matter. A Near Death
Experience in 1990 sort of reinforced my opinion that there is a future after
death but since there appears to be no scientific explanation for a NDE, I am
still uncertain of a person's destiny after they die.
Death
Compacts are when two or
more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to
contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?
No
Did you observe or hear
anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be
verified later?
No
What emotions did you feel
during the experience?
I was disappointed that I did not
have more time to talk to him but was thankful he had relieved my apprehension
and anxiety.
Was the experience witnessed
or experienced by others?
No
Did you have any sense of
altered space or time?
No
Did you have a sense of
knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?
No
Did you become aware of future
events?
No
Did you have any psychic,
paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have
prior to the experience?
No
Did you experience a
separation of your consciousness from your body?
No
Did you meet or see any other
beings other than the deceased?
No
Did you see a light?
No
Did any part of your
experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described
above?
No
Have you shared this
experience with others?
Yes
Have you shared this
experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
No
Is there anything else you
would like to add regarding your experience?
Several years after my experience,
I shared it with a nursing class-mate of my wife who described an event when
her deceased father appeared to her in a similar manner shortly after his
death. She was thinking of quitting her training prior to graduation as she
was contemplating marriage and did not wish to delay the ceremony. Her father,
who was very close to her, advised her against taking such action. She did
graduate and had a successful career as a nurse, a wife and a mother. She has
since died.
Were there any associated
medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience?
No
Following the experience, have
you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which
reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you ever in your life have
a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual
event?
Yes,
I had a massive heart
attack and was admitted to a cardiac intensive car unit. Upon regaining
consciousness, I observed hospital staff at the end of my bed and my wife
seated in the corner of the room. I determined I was in serious condition and
made a decision to go peacefully. The wall facing me took on a mosaic
appearance of field stone in pastel colors. The mouth of a tunnel was being
drawn in the middle of the wall and I was floating towards its portal. I felt
warm and comfortable. A bright white light appeared. I audibly said "Good-bye"
to my wife who admonished me and I was forcibly returned to my bed.
Did the questions asked and
information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience?
Yes
Please offer any suggestions
you may have to improve this questionnaire.
A little more room to describe a
NDE in question 45.