Jacquelyn K's
ADC
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Experience description:
Three days after my dad passed away and my grandparents were getting ready to
return to New Mexico, my grandma asked my mom if she would change the answering
machine. She said that it would be to painful to call and hear his voice on the
machine. My mom said okay. Before she recorded over his message, we tape
recorded the message onto a tape so that we could always have his voice. My mom
proceeded to record a new message. She hit the "playback" button and heard her
message but it sounded very sad. She re-recorded it again trying to sound a
little more cheerful. She left it go after the second recording. Later that
day, we had several messages on the machines from family and friends seeing how
we were doing.
The next
morning, we left for New Mexico for the final funeral. Every night that we were
there, my mom would pray that Marty would somehow give us a sign, something to
tell us that he was safe and where he was meant to be. Every time he would
leave and go out of town, he would call and let us know that he was safe and had
arrived at his destination. A week later when we arrived home, I used my cell
phone to call home and see if we had any messages. When I heard his voice, I
exclaimed to my mom "I thought you changed the message!" and she said that she
had, and reminded me that I was sitting there when she did it! Sure enough,
when we got home, his message was back on the answering machine like we had
never touched it!
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an
awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling
or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or
hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what
you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
The answering machine message was
exactly how he had left it from many months before. Nothing was changed from
the message at all.
Did the voice or
sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not
hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?
External. It was still on the
answering machine.
If you heard a
voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the
deceased made when they were alive?
Exactly the same
Is there any
possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
No
Was there any
possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
No, I was not the only one that
had heard it.
Did you feel a touch or
experience any physical contact from the deceased?
No
Did you see the
deceased?
No
Did you smell a distinct
smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience
last?
Until we changed the answering
machine, shortly afterwards...
Was the beginning and end of
the experience gradual or more sudden?
Very sudden and
surprising. We had no idea that he would be back on the answering machine,
because other people had called and left us messages on the new voice
recording. We also re-recorded it twice to make sure that the message was
changed.
Could you sense the emotions
or mood of the deceased?
Yes
It felt like he was telling us
that he made it to heaven. He was safe and we shouldn't worry.
How do you currently view the
reality of your experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain
why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:
I believe that it was definitely
real because I wasn't the only one who had witnessed it.
Was the
experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail your
feelings/emotions during the experience:
I was so happy to hear his voice
sounding cheerful. It was a sign that he was safe and that we shouldn't worry
about it. It also made me feel like of confused like maybe he didn't want us to
change the machine and wanted things to stay the way that they were when he was
here.
Was there any emotional
healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
I feel that he made it home...
What was the best and worst
part of your experience?
The best was knowing that he is
home. There really is a heaven and people do go there. It was also great
knowing that this experience could lead to other experiences and "meetings" in
the future.
Has your life changed
specifically as a result of your experience?
Yes
Describe:
I read the bible more to
learn about life after death and to see what heaven really is. I am very
involved with people with disabilities and I would like to focus on adults with
cancer doing vocational things, something that I hadn't thought of much before
my dad had passed away.
Did you have any changes of
attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Yes
I pray every night that he is
safe and will come to me in my dreams and talk to me or give me a sign that he's
thinking about me and loves me.
Did the experience give you
any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God,
etc.?
Yes
I think that if they want to
contact you, eventually they can and will in some way. It may not sink in at
first, because for us it took a day or two to realize, but when it hits you, its
a great feeling to know that they are safe and where they should be.
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
No
What emotions did you feel
during the experience?
At peace with the death. I feel
that he made it to heaven and that he isn't suffering anymore. He isn't in any
more pain.
Was the experience witnessed
or experienced by others?
Yes
My mom had left a new answering
machine message because Marty's mom couldn't call and bear to listen to his
voice on the machine since he had passed... We listened to the new message that
she had recorded several times and had other messages on the machine after she
had re-recorded it. When I called the house a week later to see if we had any
messages, his voice was back on the answering machine.
Have you shared this
experience with others?
Yes
They were surprised but also
felt a sense of relief and also possibly disbelief that he was in heaven now.
There wasn't any questioning anymore, he was home. I think that overall it gave
us a sense of peace.
Did the questions asked and
information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience?
Yes
I explained everything as
accurately as possible.