Hope H's
Mother's ADCs
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My son was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome 6 months after my husband died 12/6/09. Beginning high school he was full of trepidation and fear. After years of not fitting in, social difficulties and depression he found a few good friends within the classrooms smaller settings. He finally was able to go to school without dread. This was pretty awesome for me as a parent and him as the middle school years were difficult for us both.
My son had delayed grief, his grief did not begin until approximately the 2 year mark of my husbands death. As I was accepting this new normal that was my life his spiraled downward.
Having autism, trying to accept this, understand what it is etc combined with teenage angst and grief is the mother load of emotions to say the least. Teens with autism have difficulty expressing these emotions.
And so with that in mind I will relay my sons experience.
We had had an arrrg u ment (intentionally misspelled) some days prior this is not unusual yet I had been feeling particularly frustrated and prayed to Paul/divine spirits to help. I told the great beyond that I was feeling weak and helpless unable to parent properly and did not know what to do.
Brandon days later came down and admitted that he had seem Paul. He feared that I would take him to the loony bin and I assured his that I would not. That I read ADC's every morning before work and nothing that he would confide in me would rattle me in the least. I told him that I would find it interesting and tried not to show my excitement.
He told me that he saw Paul on the couch in the living room. That if he were on the love seat Paul was on the other couch sitting there smiling at him. Paul would stand up to walk towards him and would disappear. He admitted that he saw Paul in his room after treating me disrespectfully and he would be frowning with his arms crossed. He told me that he was in the classroom at school before a test and he saw Paul at the blackboard smiling like "Hey you can do this!" This encouragement allowed him to successfully take the test without worry.
This admission took days to get out of him. He really did fear that I would think he was crazy.
Please see below # 31 for communication from a neighbor "Jimmy" a week after his death.
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
Uncertain
Son was leery to
express what had happened to him fearing that I would think that he was crazy
and take him to a "mental institution".
Did you ONLY sense
an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing,
feeling or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the
deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
Paul would
approve or disapprove his actions.
Did
the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you,
or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was
communicated?
Paul would let him know that he was there and try to help Brandon through
difficult situations.
If
you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound
the deceased made when they were alive?
Not sure if he heard a
voice he is reluctant to speak of experience.
Is
there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
no
Was
there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
no
Did you feel a
touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?
Uncertain
This is not my
experience but my sons. I will need to ask him more about it when he is ready
to speak about it again.
Did you see the
deceased?
Yes
My son says that
Paul looks the same. Paul looked different before his death having experiencing
a stroke and multiple seizures. Brandon having autism it is particularly a
delicate thing to try to ask. I believe that Paul looked healthy before his
illness.
How
clearly did the deceased appear?
solid
How
much of the deceased did you see?
all
Did
the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
he appears the age
that he died yet healthy before the brain aneurism, stoke and seizures.
How
healthy did the deceased appear to be?
He appeared to be
healthy as in happier times in our lives.
Is
there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the
surroundings at the time of your experience?
no
Did you smell a
distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
Uncertain
What
smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?
I did not ask yet. But
my son seems to have a sensitivity to smells, light and noise due to Apsperger's
How long did the
experience last?
moments each
time just long enough to get the point across of the dissatisfaction or
encouragement that Paul wanted to relay.
Was the beginning
and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
appears to be
sudden.
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
Approving or
disapproving of his behavior.
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?
no accept to
confirm that he was indeed watching over us.
How do you
currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was probably
real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
Please understand that I am answering these questions for my son. I Definately
see these as real and have had too many experience to push it off as coincidence
or imagination. As for as believing in the afterlife I certainly do having had
multiple ADC's since Paul's death. I think that Brandon does doubt or question
all of the above but I do not. I know that it is Paul looking after us as he
has always done. Yet needed to make himself appear before Brandon for him to
believe.
Was
the experience dream like in any way?
No
He said that he saw
his dad.
Describe in detail
your feelings/emotions during the experience:
Brandon has had
negative thoughts that brought Paul to him sad, suicidal, grief, and anger
mostly confusion at these emotions prior to the experience. But he claims at
the time of the experience itself that his mind is blank and he is relaxed.
Was there any
emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Uncertain
I think so but
again, I must approach my son at the right time to ask these questions that
certainly burn in my mind. He does not particularly want to speak of these
experiences and I must do it slowly regardless of How much I want to know.
What was the best
and worst part of your experience?
I will ask him
eventually
Has your life
changed specifically as a result of your experience?
Uncertain
Describe:
I am hoping that
these experiences continue and the Brandon can see this as a guidance during
crutial moments of his life.
Did you have any
changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
Uncertain
cannot speak for my son.
Did the experience
give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God,
etc.?
Yes
I cannot speak for him. But I knew that there was "something out there" beyond
our knowledge. I have always felt Paul near and only have the doorbell
experience and tingling of the fingers knowing he is near. I talk to him when I
am by myself still. I know that he hears me when he is not busy with his
heavenly chores.
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
No
I wish we had, But
it would have admitted that he was close to death. something that neither of us
were willing to admit. He in fact was getting better a year and a half after
his surgery. His death was unexpected by me but I think that he knew when he
went out on that last walk in the dead of winter and collapsed.
Did you observe or
hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be
verified later?
Uncertain
cannot speak for my son on this.
What emotions did
you feel during the experience?
I cannot answer for him
but would like to know myself.
Was the experience
witnessed or experienced by others?
No
Did you have any
sense of altered space or time?
No
Did you have a
sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?
Uncertain
unknown not my
experience
Did you become
aware of future events?
Uncertain
unknown at this time
Did you have any
psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did
not have prior to the experience?
Uncertain
do now know but
would love to find out
Did you experience
a separation of your consciousness from your body?
No
Did you meet or see
any other beings other than the deceased?
Yes
He claims that less
than a week after a neighbors death that hit him pretty hard. (Jimmy reminded
him of his dad hard working good man) that Jimmy asked him is the burger (he
just got from Parr's) was good. I asked him if Jimmy sounded healthy. Jimmy had
several surgeries on his jaw that made communication difficult to understand.
Brandon's response was that he always understood Jimmy. Again Asperger's moment
Brandon is literal and hard to understand what he means at times. Forcing the
issue only makes him close down.
Did you see a
light?
No
Not that he
mentioned
Did any part of
your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described
above?
Yes
occurred at home,
school and as in the communication from a recently deceased neighbor walking
home from a burger joint.
Have you shared
this experience with others?
Yes
me his mom only.
Have you shared
this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
No
Is there anything
else you would like to add regarding your experience?
I am envious that he
got to see Paul and I have not. I am unable to stop the monkey chatter in my
mind to keep it clear for such an experience. Brandon as told me that he will
teach me to meditate.
Were there any
associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience?
No
Following the
experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or
substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you ever in
your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other
spiritual event?
No
Did the questions
asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience?
Yes
Please offer any
suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.
Please! put a spell
check on here. I must slow down my thoughts to try to correct my spelling.
Eventually I just typed unworried about it.