Dorothy W's
ADC
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Mike was in hospice care, at our home, from 02/04-19,2012, following a 14 month battle with cancer. It had been a very hard 14 months for him as he had lost his ability to speak and was receiving his nourishment through a peg tube because he was also unable to swallow solid food; in addition was the chemo, radiation and therapy treatments which were very debilitating on his body and soul. The last four months of his illness were made worse by the metastasized tumor he developed on his remaining throat lymph node, causing him severe head pain. Communication was very difficult, to say the least, but I was with him every step of the way, from his 12 1/2 hour operation to his final breath. After two times of being transported to the hospital for sudden fainting, I made the decision that it was time for Hospice; my instinct told me his time was near. I knew he would never agree to being in a hospital to die. He had an aversion to them his entire life.
The morning after his
death, I was just up and walking past the bathroom he always used, when the
smoke detector alarm went off. I told my sister & Mike's daughter that I was
almost certain he had changed the batteries in the alarms only 4-5 months
earlier; despite his great pain, he never quit being active & puttering until
Hospice care began. I did however, admit to them that I could be wrong, as I
removed the battery to stop that annoying screaming sound. I made a note to
myself to go get batteries ASAP. The following morning, two more alarms went
off; I said to the girls that I must have been wrong about Mike replacing them
recently. On the second day following Mike's death, my sister's husband came
from Washington state to be here for services. We told him about the alarms (I
had went out to buy new batteries). He promptly replaced every battery and
tested the system. All was well. On the third morning, I was awakened by the
loud tick-tock-ing of an ornamental clock which Mike had owned for years. This
clock had not worked for several years, but Mike kept it because he liked the
design so much. It took me a minute to realize that this clock should not be
working. As I was shaking my head at this odd happening, the alarm system went
off again!! It stopped after about 10 seconds. My brother-in-law tested the
system again and it was working as it should. This day, Wednesday, was the day
Mike was cremated. As it went off, I said, "Damn you Mike, this is not funny,
(I'm certain he was laughing very hard) It makes my ears hurt! Mike was a
skeptic, but two weeks before he died, and he could understand me, I asked him
to let me know, if there were any way, that he was still living, though his body
was gone. I believe these alarms, and the clock were his way of letting me know
he is definitely still a living being. He confirmed that to me when, 3 weeks
later, on March 13, 2013, he set one of the alarms off again for about 10-15
seconds. I believe he used the alarms because of his career as a city
firefighter, something he loved.
Was this
experience difficult to express in words?
No
Did you hear the
deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Did
the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you,
or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was
communicated?
The sound of the alarms was very real and very loud to all who heard them. I
knew this was from Mike after the alarms were reset with new batteries on day
two, then went off again on day three.
Did you feel a
touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?
No
Did you see the
deceased?
No
Did you smell a
distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the
experience last?
three times in
three consecutive days. Once in the 3rd week following his death.
Was the beginning
and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
The alarms were
sudden and unexpected. Most smoke alarms give a chirping sound warning when the
batteries are low. The alarms in our home did not before these occurrences.
Could you sense the
emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
On the third day, I
sensed he was having fun with me.
Did the deceased
give you information you did not previously know?
no
How do you
currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
In 1995, after the death of my Mother, I received a simple communication from
her on my telephone answering machine. My daughter, who lived with me at the
time, confirmed what I had heard. She had listened to the message earlier in the
day, before she left for her afternoon shift at her job. It was recorded that
day while I was at my job.
Was
the experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in
detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:
The first two times, I
was angry that the alarm system chose this sad time to ' go off'. The third
time, it made me happy to know that Mike was still with us. Mike's daughter, my
sister and brother-in-law all felt the same as me about it. It was a confirming,
good feeling.
Was there any
emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
The joy I felt was
because I knew that at last, Mike was free from his pain and suffering and was
still alive and kickin'. It was like a ton of bricks being lifted off my
shoulders even with the grief I feel from losing him.
What was the best
and worst part of your experience?
The best is affirmation
that life never ends, the worst is the reality that the person I know and love
is no longer physically here with me.
Has your life
changed specifically as a result of your experience?
Yes
Describe:
I no longer have
the dreaded feeling of being alone here. I feel certain that loved ones who
have passed are always around us.
Did
you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No
Did
the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death,
afterlife, God, etc.?
Yes It simply confirmed, again, what I have always believed.
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a
compact?
Yes
I
made this compact with Mike two weeks before his death. Though he couldn't
speak verbally, he answered me with a smile and nod.
What emotions did you feel during the experience?
I
felt warm, happy, joy and sadness, all at the same time. It was a reminder of
the wonderful and quick sense of humor Mike had in and about life.
Was
the experience witnessed or experienced by others?
Yes
On
the first & second day, Mike's Daughter and my sister were here.
Did
you have any sense of altered space or time?
No
Did
you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or
purpose?
No
Did
you become aware of future events?
No
Did
you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience
that you did not have prior to the experience?
No
Did
you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?
No
Did
you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?
No
Did
you see a light?
No
Did
any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location
described above?
No
Have you shared this experience with others?
Yes Most have listened with great interest and have expressed belief that
these things are possible. Some thought it was spooky, and a few are down-right
skeptics, looking at me as if I have a screw loose.
Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher
or web site?
No
Is
there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?
no
Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect
the experience?
No
Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life,
medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did
you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or
other spiritual event?
Uncertain
Once
during a simple medical procedure, I felt as if I were leaving my body but was
not upset about it.
Did
the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively
describe your experience?
Yes