Just before I got into bed the first night he died, I looked at myself in the mirror of my onsite bathroom and said out loud "Okay Dad, now you can tell me if "what I believe to be true IS true" (referring of course to him now knowing whether or not an afterlife actually exists). I went to sleep as usual. To help you visualize what I'm about to tell you, it's important to know that I sleep on the left side of a king size bed. I was lying on my left side and my were knees bent. At some point in the middle of my sleep, I feel someone sit down on my bed. That someone is behind me and sitting in the space between my tush and my ankles. Naturally, this startles me from my sleep and my eyes pop open - fast and wide. I look straight ahead but I don't dare move awaiting what comes next.

At this point, I now feel a gentle caress on my top leg (atop the duvet) in a manner that someone would caress another in order to relax them. This soft caress moves from my knee down to my ankles and then back up again to my knee. With eyes WIDE open, I look directly at my husband who is lying there beside me but is sleeping... so I definitely know that it is NOT him doing the caressing. My gut tells me it's my dad (or my mom) ... so I'm not scared but I say to myself (inside my head), "Okay Dad if that's really YOU, then you had better do it again .... just so I know for sure ". All I can tell you is I was wide awake and I distinctly felt that same gentle caress 2 more times (from my knee to my ankles and back up to my knee). So, now I'm compelled to turn myself over to see who is sitting there behind me. Of course, I see NO ONE but I feel the presence of someone and it's comforting.

I glance at my clock and it says 2:22 a.m. My gut felt it was someone telling me that everything was alright, my father was okay and YES, he still exists on some parallel dimension. Hard to believe but it was a warm and powerful experience and it helped to restore my strength and my hope

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            Yes

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            Yes

gentle caress from knee down to ankle and back up again . Then in my head I said "dad if that is you, you need to do that again" and it occurred 2 more times

            Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   Touch of a parent comforting a child

            Was anything communicated by the touch?  All is okay ... all is as it should be ... calm ... relaxed

            Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?  no because I said in my head "Dad if that is you, you need to do that again" and it was done 2 more times

Did you see the deceased?         No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  Yes, that all was okay, he was with his friends and my mom and that I needed to go on and enjoy the rest of my life. I was to be the messenger.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           I felt it was real. Just like I feel true love is real. I cannot prove that I love my kids or husband to someone else just as I cannot prove this is real to someone else.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No           

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           I said to myself in the in the mirror prior to going to sleep, "Dad now you can tell me if what I believe to be true, IS true" (meaning is there life after death)

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?        Yes but still the grief process (dealing with loss, routine, etc)

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      That it was real and I felt it and that it happened to me.

That I did not get to see a face of the caresser

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No      

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   No       Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?  Yes     I know what I feel to be true ...

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        Yes

Yes included and I reminded him before I went to sleep the night he passed. Maybe it was not HIM who came to me but someone came to me and sat on my bed and caressed my leg.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            Elation ... happiness ... calm ... as if I had my answer

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?           No

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    Yes

6th sense, nudging feeling

Did you become aware of future events?       No

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?         No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?            No

Did you see a light?           No

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?            No

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes     Some are believers some are skeptics

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         Yes 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Yes 

astral projection when my late mom met me ... freaked me out

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes