For Marion, I was sleeping, I woke up and was about to take a trip to the bathroom however, before I could move he appeared at the foot of my bed.  Now when he died Marion was very thin and sickly and hunched over. However when he appeared at the foot of the bed he looked as he did when we were married 16 years before.  He looked healthy,  His words to me were "Cheryl, I am at peace, I am happy, and out of pain." I heard these words just as though he was talking.  Then I sensed him saying " I will be there to greet you when it is your time." Then he was gone.  

For Berniece, I was asleep and suddenly sat up in bed and sensed her presence in the room.  I had taken her to the hospital that morning.  I know right then she had passed. The phone rang within a few minutes and a friend who was staying with us answered and took the massage from the hospital.  She indeed had passed.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?  No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?            No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?          Yes

            Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:    Clearly heard Marion speak (telepathically). "I am at peace, I am happy and out of pain." Then felt him say "I will be there to greet you when it is you time."

            Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?  Yes I heard a voice just as though he was speaking to me.  However it was telepathically done.  Not verbally.  Then when he said "I will be there to greet you when it is your time" I did not "hear" this I "sensed" this.

            If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?           His voice was his voice.

            Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           NO!!!!

            Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   NO!!!

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?            No

Did you see the deceased?         Yes

Did not see Berniece.

Saw Marion,  he looked as healthy as he did when we were first married 16 years before.

            How clearly did the deceased appear?            Solid.

            How much of the deceased did you see?       He appeared at the foot of my bed so I only could see his body from head to about his knees and then there was the bed.

            Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?       Not really.  His was very sick when he died.  He died from emphysema but he also suffered from cancer.  He was very thin and hunched over and his eyes were hollowed in appearance at death.  He appeared to be the age and appearance when we married 16 years before.

            How healthy did the deceased appear to be?            He appeared healthy as he was when we were married.

            Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?           No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?      No

How long did the experience last?        Maybe a minute and a half or two.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?         For Marion not sudden kind of gradual. 

For Berniece it was sudden.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?           Yes

He seemed at peace and out of pain as he stated.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?  The information Marion gave me was very helpful to me.  I had wondered if I had done enough for him. I had gone through a lot of "what if's" What if I had taken him to a different hospital?  What if I had call the ambulance sooner.  What if a different doctor had been there. I almost felt that I had let him down.  His appearance brought me peace.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?           Experience was definitely real

            Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:           I believe my experience was real now. For many years I told no one of my experience with my mother.  Then all these years later I had this experience with my husband I shared this with some members of my family.  I found out that my brother had an out of body experience when he was in an accident in his teens.  He is 75 now. He kept this to his self all these years.

            Was the experience dream like in any way?   No    

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:           With Marion, surprised at first, then I wondered what this was as he had been cremated.  Then I knew exactly what it was. 

With Berniece, I was jolted out of sleep.  I then knew she was in the room.  At first I thought she had come home.  But then something "told" me that she had died. I did not feel sad I remember feeling a sense of peace at that time.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?           Yes

Marion was always my "Knight on a white horse".  Once again he helped me even after death.  The experience relieved the feeling that I didn't do enough to try to save him.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?      For Marion,  it was wonderful. Every bit of it.  I only wish I could make it happen. 

For my mother, Berniece, it was at the time shocking.  But now I know more about what was happening.  And this too I wish we could find some way of "telephoning" or "visiting" our deceased.  Wouldn't that be wonderful.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?         No      

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?   Yes     I am not afraid of death. I see death as a new beginning.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?            Yes     Gave me a further understanding of what the afterlife will involve.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?        No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No
What emotions did you feel during the experience?            For Marion, The experience was very helpful along the path of grief. 

For Berniece,  when I was verbally told that my mother had died even though I knew it,  This was the first time I had experienced grief.  I was 18 years old.  I can't say it helped.

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?            No

Have you shared this experience with others?         Yes     With my daughter and my brother.  My daughter thinks this is wonderful.  My brother shared his experience with me.  He is now 75.  When he was in his teens, he was in a car accident and had an out of body experience. He, by the way also has emphysema and is facing his own death soon. His doctor gives him less than a year.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?       Thank God for it all!!!

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?            No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?           Uncertain 

I have pieces of memory where I was "flying" and other times where I was "walking" in a "heaven like" place and talking with a Being a Superior Being.  But, this fragmented in my mind and not clear like the experience I have described above. 

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?               Yes