Cheryl H's
ADC
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I heard her
voice as clear as a bell say, "Thank you for taking care of my boys". She was
referring to her husband, sons, and 2 very close male friends that were there
with her in the end. The tears burst from me and I whispered, "you're welcome
-- I promised." We had talked about her dying and she asked me to be there when
she passed because the "boys" would need me. I laughed and said, you know me,
I'll probably be in the kitchen cooking when you go. I had completely forgotten
that conversation until I heard her voice. I have told this to a few people,
they all said it was my imagination, or just grief. I assure you, it was NOT!
Was this experience
difficult to express in words?
No
Did you hear the deceased or
hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what
you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
I heard her voice as clear as a
bell say, "Thank you for taking care of my boys".
Did the voice or
sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not
hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?
It was as if she was standing
about 2-3' to my left and about a foot behind me.
If you heard a
voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the
deceased made when they were alive?
It was her normal speaking voice,
but not loud enough that anyone near her body (about 10-15 feet away in the
family room) would have heard it. There was a sense of it being her old self,
free from pain and shackles of illness. She was happy.
Is there any
possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
NO!
Was there any
possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
NONE
Did you feel a touch or
experience any physical contact from the deceased?
No
Did you see the
deceased?
No
Did you smell a distinct
smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience
last?
Just a few seconds, although I
could "feel" her presence for some time. Then it became very clear that she was
leaving to be with her other son who was currently driving down from San
Francisco. Sandy and I were VERY close in life. I could often tell what was
going on with her without contact and she could do the same with me.
Was the beginning and end of
the experience gradual or more sudden?
The beginning was sudden,
the sense of her leaving was more gradual.
Could you sense the emotions
or mood of the deceased?
Yes
She seemed happy to be free of
the confines of her body.
Did the deceased give you
information you did not previously know?
no -- just a thank you
How do you currently view the
reality of your experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain
why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:
I just KNOW it was real.
Was the
experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail your
feelings/emotions during the experience:
Sandy had just died. I felt sad
and numb. Grief had not really hit, and the sadness was minimal. I was happy
she was free of her pain.
Was there any emotional
healing in any way following the experience?
No
I felt that this experience,
although it happened to me, was more of a confirmation to her family that she
was alright. That it was okay for her to go, and even in death she knew that
they would have a support system (not just me, but others too).
What was the best and worst
part of your experience?
Best and worst = Sandy is gone.
Has your life changed
specifically as a result of your experience?
No
Did you have any changes
of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No
What emotions did you feel
during the experience?
I cried a lot. The reality of how
much I was going to miss her hit pretty hard.
Have you shared this
experience with others?
Yes
Most have rolled their eyes and
placated me. The family, for whom I believe the "message" was intended, all
believe what I experienced was real. That is all that matters to me.
Have you shared this
experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
No
Is there anything else you
would like to add regarding your experience?
no
Were there any associated
medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience?
No
Following the experience, have
you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which
reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you ever in your life have
a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual
event?
Yes,
OBE's
Did the questions asked and
information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience?
Yes
Please offer any suggestions
you may have to improve this questionnaire.
no