Carolyn J's ADC
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It’s been ten years. Ten years since he “went fishing” the last time, June 24,
2016!
Something happened recently, well, on June 1st actually, that I want to share
with you.
First, though, a little background information:
1. Phil loved celebrating my birthday with me. In the beginning of our
relationship, he simply showered me good things on my birthday. Then, he
expanded the celebration to a week during which, I chose the restaurants;
planned the trips; chose the menus, TV shows and music! A year or so before his
death, he made the entire month of March all about me!
2. Until now there have only been a couple of dreams when I felt like
Phil was maybe communicating with me…maybe.
3. On May 31st I was looking at my favorite picture of Phil and wishing
that he could, would, let me know that he still cares…and knows…what matters to
me.
4. I am not tech savvy, and the main thing I use my iPhone for is texting
or calling. My phone has a passcode required for entry. I rarely use it to
listen to music although my library is connected in the cloud with the iTunes on
my MacBook.
5. My go-to song to listen to when I miss Phil is “Everything I Own” by
Bread from an album we both loved. (And which Chris loved and from which he
named he daughter Aubrey.)
Here’s what happened the morning of June 1st. It was was a beautiful morning,
and I was out walking on a path that I like, passing pretty weeping willows,
noticing a wild rabbit and hearing birds chirping. A sudden sound from my phone
made me think it was about to ring, but instead, there was music!
You sheltered me from harm.
Kept me warm, kept me warm.
This wasn’t possible. Music, when I hadn’t touched the phone in 10 or 15
minutes! And that song! The song that expressed the longings of my heart. As the
song continued, I began to feel that Phil was “talking” to me in the same way
that I usually talked to him.
You gave my life to me
Set me free, set me free
The finest years I ever knew
Were all the years I had with you
And I would give anything I own
Give up my life, my heart, my home
I
would give everything I own
Just to have you back again
You taught me how to love
What it's of, what it's of
You never said too much
But still you showed the way
And I knew from watching you
Nobody else could ever know
The part of me that can't let go
And I would give anything I own
Give up my life, my heart, my home
I
would give everything I own
Just to have you back again
Just to touch you once again.
And then it stopped! It stopped! At the end of the message, it stopped. Where I
always stop even though there is more to the song…
I
was overcome with tears. My heart melted with joy and love and the sense that
Phil was communicating with me…at last!
The feeling that this was real has persisted despite my having tested it in
every way I know. As I have been
weighing all the impossibilities of this happening, I have allowed the
possibilities of enduring love to make their arguments. And the fact that on the
first day of this important month, this happened when my phone was effectively
locked, and that the song that played was this one, makes me almost, totally
believe that it was Phil.
Was this experience difficult to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the
deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?
Yes
Did you hear the deceased or hear something
associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was
communicated:
The song that I play to remember Phil, suddenly
came on my locked iPhone. It said to me that Phil still loves me and feels the
same way about how his death physically separated us.
Did the voice or sound seem to
originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice
or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?
It originated from my locked iPhone.
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar
from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?
It was a song on my
iPhone
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other
source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?
No
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time
of the experience?
No
Did you feel a touch or experience any physical
contact from the deceased?
No
Did you see the deceased?
No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance
or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience last?
2-3 minutes
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
It began suddenly when the song began and ended suddenly when the message to me
lyrics of the song ended. The song
itself is several verses longer than the part played.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?
Uncertain
I interpreted the sending of the song to mean Phil's feelings of love for
me were the same as mine for him still are.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?
No
How do you currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
There is no other possible explanation for it
happening.
Was the experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail
your feelings/emotions during the experience:
Surprise to have the song come on my locked phone. Then as it sank in, joy,
tears of happiness, feelings of being loved, awareness that Phil was playing on
the entire month of celebrating my birthday tradition to tell me he loves me.
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
It has been so long since Phil's death, and yet I am still deeply sad about
the loss of the most meaningful relationship of my life. It sort of doesn't feel
so much like he is gone completely anymore.
What was the best and worst part of your experience?
The best part was hearing Phil tell me about how he misses me and loves me
more than anything. There was nothing negative about it. I am able to play the
song repeatedly now and feel much of the joy again that I felt that day.
Has your life changed specifically as a result of
your experience?
No