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Experience description: 2376:

This is a symbolic ADC but I have never had one like it before or since. My cousin was fond of frogs and collected many statues and pictures of them.

My cousin lived in Florida until his death late in 2010. This experience occurred in Florida at the pool of the Motel 6 where I

was staying following a technical conference at Miami Beach. I had been in touch with my cousin's partner at their home in Delray Beach and

we were dealing with the estate. In addition to my own sadness, I was affected by the sadness of his partner, so I was doubly sad - sad that he was sad.

Here is the description of the actual experience. I was sitting by the North-West corner of the pool at the Motel 6 facing East. I had just been in the pool but I did not see any frogs.

After I was sitting down, a frog appeared by the pool. I had assumed that it must have been in the pool. It was a good sized frog, about 5 inches long,

so I did not know how I could have missed it in the pool. I did not see any frogs in or near the pool when I went into the pool and left the pool.

I thought it odd that a frog should suddenly appear. When 'real' frogs get caught in pools they have a hard time getting out without help. In

retrospect, this must have been no ordinary physical frog. It jumped over to where I was sitting by the pool, turned to me an stopped. We spent a long

time, maybe a minute, looking at each other. I thought to myself, 'Ray, I did not think you would be back so soon!' Then the frog continued

to jump in the same direction away from the pool and finally it jumped in the bushes.

I had never had such a strange experience. I really cannot explain why the frog suddenly 'appeared' out of nowhere, nor why the frog decided to

turn and face me when it was directly in front of me. My cousin had quite a sense of humor so maybe this was his joke from beyond.

Was this experience difficult to express in words?       No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?         No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?   No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?   No

Did you see the deceased?       No

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?       No

How long did the experience last?      This experience was over in a few minutes

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?          It was all in the normal waking state and it ended as abruptly as it started.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?         Yes

I surmised that it was just another one of my cousin's jokes.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? no, other than symbolically not to jump to conclusions about the state of the deceased.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?        Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:  It all happened in the normal waking state and I experienced it.

          Was the experience dream like in any way? No

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:        I was actually quite amused and at the same time confused by the experience but I still felt sad and happy at the same time.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          Yes

It helped me deal with sadness.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    The best thing was it occurred in Florida, the state where my cousin lived. The worst thing was that his partner was not there to share the experience.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?      No       

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?        No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?         Same as during, but at least I had a feeling that my cousin was OK.

Have you shared this experience with others?       Yes    I told a few close friends and relatives. They did not have any particularly strong reaction to it one way or another.

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?  No

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?          No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?   Yes 

Too many to tell here - not enough time.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                    Yes

Experience description 2375:  

During the ADCs, Mother would appear to my niece. They were both 'sitting in chairs' in a nondescript room having conversations. This happened multiple times; I am not sure how many. I asked my niece how old my mother appeared to be and she replied 'in her sixties.' This is consistent with the age of my mother at the time of my niece's birth; my niece was incapable of remembering Mother at any earlier age.

My niece said that Mother mentioned several personal details about my niece that she never told Mother. My niece asked her 'How do you know that?' Mother's response was vague and noncommittal. My impression of Mother's vague response was that either she could not explain how she knew, was not allowed to tell, or the description would have distracted from the main purpose of the contact. My impression also was that Mother somehow got access to my niece's akashic records.

In any case, Mother told my niece many details about my parents' relationship, including Father's moods, difficulties with the relationship, how Mother left him briefly, and how they worked through these difficulties to have a better relationship later on in life. My niece related in great detail some events about which I knew but never told her. I did not ask my brother (her father) if he had told her because of the very sensitive nature of the descriptions and fear of ridicule. However, it was my impression that my niece was learning all this for the first time. My niece told me details that Mother had told her but it is not likely that these details would have been discussed during Mother's lifetime. My impression that the purpose of the ADC series was to reassure my niece regarding her relationship with her boyfriend, of whom my brother does not approve.

Grandfather did not approve of Father but Mother married him anyway. My niece revealed details of Mother's last date with her other boyfriend - which occurred the night before her wedding. I was unaware of this detail but it is consistent with everything that I know about the family - that Mother broke off the relationship with her other boyfriend on that Sat. night before the Sunday wedding after church - because that is how Mother concealed the wedding from my Father. The date with the other boyfriend and the church service provided a cover for what was really going on. Grandfather would not have allowed Mother to marry Father if Grandfather knew about it in advance. I knew that my parents got married on a Sunday but did not know that Mother's last date with her other boyfriend was on the Sat. night before. My niece related to me all of the details with complete consistency and accuracy as far as I can tell.

Mother told my niece's not to worry and her relationship with the boyfriend of whom my brother does not approve, would 'work out OK' or something like that. I don't think that this was such a great 'reassurance' because of some of the rather stormy times my parents had. My niece said that Mother told her that Father's moods were unpredictable and he could be in a good mood or a bad mood after returning from work. (Father worked in various shifts and when one's shift keeps changing, this is a source of stress. I am sure that this had something to do with it.) I had not told my niece that but her description was totally accurate.

After my niece told me all about her ADCs, the experiences stopped. Mother appeared to my niece only briefly and for short times - no more lengthy conversations. I am not sure why the experiences stopped after my niece told me all about them but I do know that my spiritual Master has told us not to reveal any experiences that we have in meditation because this will cause the experiences to stop. I did not tell my niece anything about the advice from my spiritual Master and she could not have made up the detail that telling someone may cause spiritual experiences to stop. Perhaps the experiences that my niece had with Mother were all that were necessary and the information transfer that Mother needed to tell my niece had been accomplished. Nothing happens without a purpose. I asked my niece to tell Mother 'Thank you very much,' which was the last thing Mother ever said to me. I'm not sure that she was able to do that but I believe that I showed gratitude to Mother by my actions during her lifetime. I also believe that my spiritual Master blocked any direct ADCs between Mother and me because such encounters may retard my spiritual growth. We are not to become too attached to anyone or anything of this earth. We are to seek the highest level of spiritual achievement - God realization.

Lastly, I want to point out that my niece suffers from the kind of mental illness that gives rise to panic attacks. She is highly intelligent and I do not believe that her mental illness was related in any way with her ADCs. This is one reason why I have not told anyone else in the family - because some may dismiss it as just an artifact of the illness. My niece's descriptions of the ADCs display too much accuracy, coherence, and consistency for this to be a delusion. If I did not believe that this was real I would not have decided to report it here.

Background Information:

Date of experience:         Circa 4 Feb. - 4 March 2015

Length of time between death of deceased and your experience:        very little time. ADC series began shortly after death. Exact amount unknown.

Was the date of the experience significant in any way?    no

General geographic location of experience: Eastport, NY 11041

Details of location of experience and your activity at the time of experience:  The ADCs occurred during the transition between the normal waking state and sleep, i.e. in the bedroom.

Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience:          Severe sadness and/or grief feelings

Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience:       Very drowsy

After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience:          Wonderful

Have you had multiple experiences?   No      Was this experience difficult to express in words?       No

Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?         No

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?   Yes

          Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:     The description of what was heard was covered already in a lengthy account.

          Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?    My impression was that the encounter was just like sitting down in two chairs with another person and having a conversation.

          If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?        It was like the voice Mother had when she was in her 60s.

          Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?     No

          Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?     No

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?   No

Did you see the deceased?       Yes

The deceased looked much younger than at the time of death - 30 years younger

           
How clearly did the deceased appear?           I don't have enough information to describe that.

           
How much of the deceased did you see?       What you would see if you were sitting in a chair next to someone having a conversation.

           
Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died? This was already covered. The deceased appeared to be about the same age as she would have been at the time of the person's birth (my niece) who actually had the ADC.

           
How healthy did the deceased appear to be?           Not enough information is available to answer this.

           
Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?      NO!

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?       Uncertain

          What smell, scent, fragrance or odor did you smell?       This is all uncertain whether or not any smell was involved.

          Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?  It is all uncertain whether or not any smell was involved.

          Was anything communicated by the smell? It is all uncertain whether or not any smell was involved.

          Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience? It is all uncertain whether or not any smell was involved.

How long did the experience last?      Multiple experiences occurred over a period of weeks. I am not sure how long each one lasted but given the volume of information, these must have been lengthy conversations.

Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?          Evidently the beginning must have been more sudden than the end. The end was marked by brief appearances but no in-depth conversations.

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?         No

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know? Yes. This was already covered in detail the description of the ADCs. I believe that all the information was true. Some of the information was helpful. For my niece, the most helpful part was to reassure her regarding her boyfriend. For me, the most revealing part of it was the knowledge that Mother had broken off the relationship with her other boyfriend the day before she married my father. This brought to me a sense of profound grief because her other boyfriend must have been very hurt by this and I was feeling his pain.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?        Experience was definitely real

          Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:  My niece would not and could not fabricate the information that she told me. The part that corresponded to my knowledge was totally accurate. The other part that I did not know was consistent with everything I did know about my Mother.

          Was the experience dream like in any way? Uncertain

The experiences happened during the transition between wakefulness and sleep. In this way they were like a dream. However, dreams do not occur like this.       

Describe in detail your feelings/emotions during the experience:        My niece described a series of lengthy encounters. I got the impression but cannot prove that she did not tell me all that happened, but gave me samples of the conversations. She was still grieving but must have been relaxed enough to ask questions. She was confused about how Mother could have known the information about my niece even though she never told Mother that information.

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?          Yes

I think that the emotional healing was a three-way event. My niece and I were glad to hear from Mother and know that she was safely in the Astral world. It's not nice to be dead and fixated on the material world - it's very sad actually. Mother was exactly where God and Master want her to be. I believe that Master is also watch over Mother and there is some emotional healing from that.

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    The best thing was that it happened to my niece and she told me about it. The worst things were 1. that I did not have the experience myself, and 2. the sadness I felt upon learning the details about how Mother broke off the relationship with her other boyfriend. It was such a deep sadness I gathered that I must have been getting this from a source outside myself because I never met him.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?      No         

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience? Uncertain     I believe that this event must have altered my niece's spiritual attitudes. I also assured her that this was a very real series of events and how thrilled I was that this was happening to her.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?        Yes    It confirmed that my spiritual Master was watching over my Mother, as He indirectly indicated that He would do. It also confirmed that Mother must have followed my advice. I told her to go toward the light and not be afraid. I assured her that love, peace, joy and God were all in the light. Of course, I was referring to the experience of death in which the spirit withdraws from the body. I believe that it helped my niece as well. It brought us closer together and demonstrated to her the reality of the spiritual world.

Death Compacts are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s).  Have you ever made such a compact?         No

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?        Yes I verified everything my niece told me. Either I knew it already or it was consistent with what I know.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?         I cannot say exactly what emotions my niece experienced but I know that she was afraid to tell anyone. She finally told me because she knew that I would not make fun of her or tell her that what she had experienced was not real. My emotions were that I was very glad that my niece had these experiences and I wanted to have the ADCs from Mother as well but perhaps there is a very good reason why I did not.

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?         Yes

I am describing information obtained from my niece when she told me about her ADCs.

I did not have the experience.

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?  No

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?    Yes

The knowledge imparted must have come from the akashic records.

Did you become aware of future events?      Uncertain

Most conversations were about past events. The only present situation that was discussed was regarding my niece's boyfriend. Perhaps the future event pertains to their continued relationship.

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?           No

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?          No

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?         No

Did you see a light?        Uncertain

There must have been enough light to tell who my niece encountered and what she looked like. Apart from that, no description was given.

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?        No

Have you shared this experience with others?      

No      Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?   No

 Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?          Everything happens for a reason. Perhaps events in the future will unfold so that the reason(s) will become clearer.

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience? No

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?          No 

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?   Uncertain 

I am not sure about my niece but I have had lots of spiritual events. Nothing surprises me.

Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?                    Yes

Please offer any suggestions you may have to improve this questionnaire.       Perhaps you could have a box you could check to distinguish between someone reporting their own experiences and someone reporting experiences of another person. I believe that if my niece had not told me about the experience, she would not have received the confirmation about how accurate the information was and how real the experience was.