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'Don't be so sad, Toodles, Chrissy is here with me.'
I
was stunned. I recall answering her, and then I looked around. I guess I was
looking for some evidence of a presence, but nothing was there. I couldn't
figure out how or why I heard my mom's voice in my head. I guess I thought it
should come from somewhere outside my head. I didn't talk about it until a
couple weeks later when I saw my doctor. My doctor and her nurse are always
careful to listen to me. They called me in for an appointment the day after my
daughter died because the hospital reported that I was in the ER the night
before because I couldn't stop sobbing. After 8 hours of sobbing my head was
pounding and my husband was beside himself trying to help me. The hospital gave
me a shot to calm me down and reported the reason: 'Grief'.
When I told the nurse about my experience she hugged me and said, 'That's how it
happens!' I told her I never knew about those things. When I told my doctor she
said she got goose bumps. She hugged me, too.
As
I reported, my mom died 10 years ago. I never got a communication from her.
Occasionally she would be in one of my dreams, though I don't even know if I
would consider those to be visitations. My mom and I had a lot of shared
interests. I got my love of nature from her. In the first three years after she
passed I dearly missed her to the point that I longed for some kind of after
death contact but none happened. Eventually life just carried on and I didn't
think about that anymore. In 2010 my husband of 41 years died. There was no
after death communication, still none today. My dad died in 1987. There was no
after death communication but something did happen at the time of death which I
will report later. Contact me if you can't find it.
After my daughter died I longed to have some kind of contact. I was devastated.
I didn't think I would survive. She and I were best friends. I loved her to the
moon and back. I never got a communication from her, and have not to this day.
It will be a year this June 1st. I did have a dream about a month after she
died. She looked so well, so healthy. I told her that, and then asked why she
died, 'Why did you have to die?' She immediately left my dream and I woke up.
I
think one reason I was shocked to hear from my mom is that any expectation about
hearing from her went away at least 7 years ago. I was grieving the loss of my
daughter and suddenly my mom spoke to me. Out of the blue. Unexpected. Not fake,
not imagined. I know the exact words she said but every time I repeat them in my
head they are in MY voice, not her's.
Thank you for letting me record my experience.
Was this experience difficult to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an awareness of presence of the
deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or hear something
associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was
communicated:
I heard my mother's
voice, clearly. She said, 'Don't be so sad, Toodles, Chrissy's here with me.'
(Toodles is my nickname that my parents called me. No one else
on this earth calls me Toodles)
Did the voice or sound seem to
originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice
or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?
Inside my head
If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar
from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?
EXACTLY my mother's voice when she was alive but
before she got very old and sick. It was from earlier years when she spoke with
a stronger voice.
Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other
source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?
No, absolutely not. Nothing, no one with me, no one
in the hallway or other areas, no TV or radio, nothing at all, just silence in
the whole apartment.
Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time
of the experience?
No, absolutely not.
Did you see the deceased?
No
Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance
or odor associated with the deceased?
No
How long did the experience last?
The length of time it
takes to say the phrase, 'Don't be so sad, Toodles, Chrissy's here with me.'
Was the beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
Sudden. My mom spoke the words. That was it. Nothing before or after.
Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
Yes, my mother was reassuring me about my daughter.
Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?
Yes. I assume she was informing me that Chrissy was safe with her (my mother,
Chrissy's grandmother). It makes sense to me now, as they shared the same love
of nature.
How do you currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was
definitely real
Please explain why you view the reality of your experience as real or not
real:
It happened, crystal clear. I can't replicate it,
can't fake it, can't make it happen again, can't hear my mom's voice in my head
no matter how hard I try.
Was the experience dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail
your feelings/emotions during the experience:
Stunned, surprised, not expecting something like that, not understanding how it
could happen
Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Uncertain
Yes and no, because I continued to grieve, but I had that message from my
mom. I knew it was real, though I couldn't come up with any scientific
explanation, nor was I sure I could find a religious explanation either. It
seemed to go against anything I had ever been taught. My husband supports me in
my quest for understanding, and he agrees that what happened is real. The only
certainty I have is yes, my mom spoke to me, and somehow my daughter is safe
with her.
What was the best and worst part of your experience?
Best, getting news about my daughter.
Worst, not hearing from my daughter
Has your life changed specifically as a result of
your experience?
Uncertain
Describe:
Of the things mentioned above, not really. I continually strive to heal from the
loss of my daughter. However, the message from my mom has brought an awareness
to me that I can't quite explain but want to learn more about. I don't go to
church or mosque. I don't trust organized religion very much.