Bruce B ADC
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I had just finished lunch in my private studio next to the wallpaper factory
that I owned. I was in deep grief over the condition of my lover, Ricardo C, but
had no idea that he was going to die that day, as he had been sick for a long
time and we were somewhat estranged. I fell to my knees and prayed with all my
heart (to no one in particular, I was just at my rope's end) for the strength to
forgive all that had happened between us. I felt some sort of a whoosh and from
this point on I'm only speaking the best I can, as I was in a different
dimension where words like 'hear, see' etc. really don't apply.
I saw Ricardo in front of me, but he was made entirely of light. The light
swirled around him almost like liquid mercury and instead of the shriveled body
lying in a hospital 35 miles to the south, he was what I can only describe as
beatified - beautiful beyond description and radiating pure unconditional love.
The love was light and the light was love. He took me with him and we looked
down upon the earth below where I saw him and his friends playing like children,
and I realized that they meant no harm to anyone, and like children they were
not fully responsible for their actions. All this was taking place in a world of
absolute nonjudgemental love, and the love that was streaming from him
transformed me and my view of his world.
I was very aware that there was no such thing as time - everything was
simultaneous and everything could be known all at once. It was such an
incredible experience that I still use the term whenever I try to explain it to
someone: everything was simultaneous, and everything was light and unconditional
love.
I returned to my body and I think I remember I was breathing heavily from the
enormity of the experience.
All my life I had carried a heavy burden of anger and resentment from having an
abusive mother. I stood up and asked Ricardo, who was no longer visible, if
there was any way he could lift some of this pain from my shoulders, as it was
becoming unbearable. I wanted that unconditional love that flowed through him to
cleanse me, if he could. To my amazement he reappeared in front of me, still
made of light and still radiating pure love. He smiled and said "I am you
mother". I was shocked to the
core of my existence because I didn't understand what he meant. But he was gone
again, and that was the end of our contact.
When I came to my wits I realized that he must have died when he visited me.
Then the phone rang, and to my surprise a friend told me that he had gone into a
coma in San Francisco and was expected to die soon. I replied "He was here! He
was here! I saw him!" but no one knew what to make of what I was saying.
His mother, who had nursed him through a long and heartbreaking illness, had
been raised in a convent in El Salvador and was a devout Catholic. When I
arrived at the hospital, I could sense her fear that if his homosexual lover was
by his side when he died, that he might be punished for his sins. I was aware of
her suffering, her love for him, and her wish that he might be allowed to enter
her understanding of heaven. He was
so weak he could not communicate in words, but I felt in my heart that
everything between him and me had been already resolved through divine love and
there was nothing left I needed to
do other than spare her more grief. So after spending some time at his side I
left the hospital so that she could be with him in privacy when he died.
When I returned she graciously invited me to be alone with his dead body. I
looked at his shrunken skeletal form and yellow skin, and still saw him as
beautiful. But to my surprise the dead body held no interest for me - he wasn't
in it, and I had seen his true form, which was not this corpse.
If I stop at this point it makes a good story, but in truth the experience
didn't make my life a bed of roses in any way. It did give me some sort of
internal strength that got me through to agony of the next few years, when many
of my closest friends died of AIDS. After the initial glow of the NDE experience
waned, I found myself once again caught in a spiral of grief and rage that took
years to overcome. But once that was over, I was a better person for it.
My summary:
I left the hospital and hung out in a Burger King while my lover died, but it
was OK.
He gave me a parting message to free me from my anger and resentment, and I have
failed to understand it for the past 33 years. I'm not particularly proud of
that, but I am still working on it. I guess he had a great sense of humor...
At the time
of your experience was there an associated life-threatening event?
Yes
I was in perfect physical health. My lover
was very sick from AIDS and had been near death several times but recovered. I
learned after my experience that he had gone into a coma in a hospital 35 miles
away at the time he appeared in my studio, made of light.
Was the experience
difficult to express in words?
Yes
We can only use words from this plane to
describe this state of expanded consciousness, and the words of this plane fall
short. I'm always dubious of stories about beings made of light that serve as
guides in the beyond, but that's what happened to me. It sounds hokey, but when
it happens it is indescribably transcendent.
At what time during the
experience were you at your highest level of
consciousness and alertness? When we
traveled together and looked down at the earth
How did your highest level
of consciousness and alertness during the experience compare to your normal
everyday consciousness and alertness?
More
consciousness and alertness than normal
It is beyond explanation. Everything was
simultaneous - there was no time, only infinite love and light.
Please
compare your vision during the experience to your everyday vision that you had
immediately prior to the time of the experience.
There is no direct comparison - there you can see everything past and future all
at once
Please
compare your hearing during the experience to your everyday hearing that you had
immediately prior to the time of the experience.
I say that Ricardo said something, but it was not
in words, it was telepathic
Did you see
or hear any earthly events that were occurring during a time that your
consciousness / awareness was apart from your physical / earthly body?
No
What emotions did you feel
during the experience?
Unconditional universal love, and compassion when
we looked down at the earth
Did you pass into or
through a tunnel?
No
Did you see an unearthly
light?
Yes
Everything was light, and the light itself
was love
Did
you seem to encounter a mystical being or presence, or hear an unidentifiable
voice?
I encountered a definite being, or a voice clearly of mystical or unearthly
origin
I can't say that is was unearthly, as Ricardo was
identifiable, but as I mentioned previously, he was beatified and made of light.
Did you encounter or
become aware of any beings who previously lived on earth who are described by
name in religions (for example: Jesus, Muhammad, Buddha, etc.)?
No
Did
you encounter or become aware of any deceased (or alive) beings?
Yes
Ricardo, who was still alive in the
hospital, but in a coma.
Did
you become aware of past events in your life during your experience?
No
Did
you seem to enter some other, unearthly world?
A clearly mystical or unearthly realm
Did time seem to speed up or slow down?
Everything seemed to be happening at once; or time stopped or
lost all meaning
Everything was
simultaneous, which makes no logical sense in this realm, but perfect sense in
that state of expanded consciousness.
Did
you suddenly seem to understand everything?
No
Did you reach a boundary
or limiting physical structure?
No
Did
you come to a border or point of no return?
No
Did scenes from the
future come to you?
No
During
your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness
suggesting that there either is (or is not) continued existence after earthly
life (“life after death”)?
Yes
Ricardo appeared as a body made of light.
I honestly have no idea if that was a transitional state or a permanent state,
as I returned to my body after he showed me the children playing on earth.
During
your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that God
or a supreme being either does (or does not) exist?
Uncertain
I have trouble with the word God. I was a
part of an infinite loving consciousness. And that is the point - I was a part
of it, not separate from it.
During
your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that you
either did (or did not) exist prior to this lifetime?
No
During
your experience, did you encounter any specific information / awareness that a
mystical universal connection or unity/oneness either does (or does not) exist?
Yes
Simple: all is one, and that all is cosmic
love/light
During your experience,
did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding earthly life’s
meaning or purpose?
Yes
If all is one, everyone on earth plays
their part, and should be loved, not judged.
During your experience,
did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding earthly life’s
difficulties, challenges, or hardships?
Yes
Same answer as #36 - we should not judge others, but love them
During your experience,
did you encounter any specific information / awareness regarding love?
Yes
Love is the warp and weft of the universe
and the only thing that matters. We are all connected in ways that we cannot
understand at this level of consciousness.
During your experience,
did you encounter any other specific information / awareness that you have not
shared in other questions that is relevant to living our earthly lives?
No
Did you have a sense of
knowing special knowledge or purpose?
Yes
That my judgment of Ricardo was wrong.
What occurred during your
experience included:
Content that was both consistent and not consistent
with the beliefs you had at the time of your experience
I understood the power of unconditional love and universal consciousness,
but failed completely to understand what he meant when he said "I am your
mother". Thirty three years later I am still trying to understand it.
How accurately do you
remember the experience in comparison to other life events that occurred around
the time of the experience?
I remember the experience more accurately than
other life events that occurred around the time of th
It was a once in a lifetime event and in its power and lucidity can't be
compared to any other experience at our normal level of consciousness. It was
light years away from anything I have ever experienced.
Discuss any changes
that might have occurred in your life after your experience:
Some of the anger and resentment that had shadowed
my life was taken away - I think I became a better person. But I am amazed and a
little disappointed in myself that after the experience I remain so fallible and
human. It took years of work to recover from the pain and agony of my
relationship with Ricardo.
My
experience directly resulted in:
Large changes in my life
Did you have any changes in your values or beliefs after the experience that
occurred as a result of the experience?
Yes
I know we all are part of a higher state of consciousness. And I mean all,
not just the good people, but everyone.
Do you
have any psychic, non-ordinary or other special gifts after your experience that
you did not have before the experience?
No
Are there one or several parts of your experience
that are especially meaningful or significant to you?
The absolute certainty that there is no time in that higher state of
consciousness, and that we are all linked in ways that we cannot understand (and
perhaps don't need to understand) at this earthly level of consciousness. But
divine love is the essence of that higher consciousness. Also, the experience
was not ponderous - I mean as incredible as it was, it was suffused with what
could best be described as loving sense of humor. Sort of like the laughing
Buddha concept. And there was no judgement.
Have you ever shared this experience with others?
Yes
I told our mutual friends at the hospital
that I had seen him in my studio. I don't think they really believed it, or at
least did not understand. Then I told my family and all my closest friends. So
many people were dying of AIDS in San Francisco, and I talked about with my
friends who were sick in hopes that they would take comfort from it.
Did you have any knowledge
of near death experience (NDE) prior to your experience?
Uncertain
Of course after the event I tried to learn
everything I could about NDE as the described events were identical to my
experience. I'm not sure if I had any prior knowledge.
What did you believe about
the reality of your experience shortly (days to weeks) after it happened:
Experience was definitely real
After you experience that expanded
consciousness, it is this world that appears unreal, not the world of light and
love.
What do you believe about
the reality of your experience at the current time:
Experience was definitely real
It was the clearest consciousness I have
ever experienced.
Have your relationships
changed specifically as a result of your experience?
Yes
I was a workaholic, trying to prove myself worthy
of love, and neglected Ricardo's needs. When I finally fell in love again twelve
years later, I retired and put my efforts into being a loving companion. It has
healed the hole in my heart.
Have your religious
beliefs/spiritual practices changed specifically as a result of your experience?
Yes
I try to remember that love and laughter are the most important things in
life. That's my religion, if you could call it that...
At
any time in your life, has anything ever reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Is there anything else
that you would like to add about your experience?
Only that I am so amazed that I could never understand what
was meant by 'I am your mother'. I guess I'll get the answer when I die. Maybe
it is as simple as replacing all judgment with compassion. That's a work in
progress.
Did
the questions asked and information that you provided accurately and
comprehensively describe your experience?
Uncertain
I admire what you have done - it's not
easy to talk about one state of consciousness when you are in different one. I
felt a little strange about the God questions as God is such a divisive topic.
The bible says 'I am a jealous God' and that is not what I experienced. I
am more comfortable with substituting consciousness for the word God. If anyone
believes that God is Love, that's pretty much what I think: they are one in the
same. And we don't have to argue about Love.