Bess M's
ADC
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We sat and
drank coffee, then he told me he wanted me to meet some of his friends. He
introduced me to some people, then we went back in the house. Mike then patted
my stomach and told me congratulations on my pregnancy. He then said "Your son
is going to be healthy and beautiful. Don't worry, I'll be taking care of you
guys". He then asked me to keep an eye on his widow, who was also a good
friend. He then said he was off to play a round of golf and left.
Background
information:
Details of location of experience and your activity at time of experience (for example: sleeping, in reading in bed in bedroom, at funeral of deceased, driving a car to work, cooking in kitchen, etc.): In all three experiences I was sleeping and they came to me in what I thought were dreams
Degree of bereavement for deceased immediately prior to the experience (choose
best
response):
Severe sadness and/or grief
feelings
Degree of alertness immediately prior to experience (choose best response):
Asleep
After your experience, did you consider the contents of your experience: Mixed
Length of time between death of
deceased and your experience:
7 months
Have you had multiple
experiences?
Yes
, 4
Was the
kind of experience difficult to express in words?
Yes
Because people who do not believe in this label you as a quack and think you
need to be committed
Did you
ONLY sense an awareness or presence of the deceased without actually seeing,
hearing, feeling or smelling them?
No
Did you
see the deceased?
Yes
He looked just like any time I ever saw him alive
How clearly did the deceased
appear (i.e. solid, somewhat transparent, etc.):
Clear as a bell
How much of the deceased did
you see (i.e. all or part of the deceased):
All of him
Did the deceased appear or not
appear to be the age at which they died?
Appeared to be at the age he died
How healthy did the deceased
appear to be? Did they have any infirmities before they died which might have
been apparent or not apparent?
Extremely healthy. His neck was
broken in the accident and there were massive cuts, but he appeared perfect
Is there any possibility what
you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of
your experience?
No
Did you
smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the
deceased?
No
How long
did the experience last?
Just about 5 minutes, like a short movie
Was the
beginning and end of the experience gradual or more sudden?
gradual
Could you
sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?
Yes
He just seemed happy
Did the
deceased give you information you did not previously know?
He referred to my child to be as
""your son"", and at the time, I had not found out the sex of my child.
Your
beliefs immediately prior to the experience regarding your fear of death.
Moderately
fearful
Your
beliefs currently regarding your fear of death.
Moderately fearful
How do
you currently view the reality of your experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain why you view the
reality of your experience as real or not real:
I can't explain, but I know
it was real
Was the experience dream like
in any way?
Yes
I was asleep and it was in a dream
What did
you feel (while awake) immediately prior to your experience?
Happy
Was there
any emotional healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
Because I was upset that I never got to say goodbye to Mike, but in this way I
did
What was
the best and worst part of your experience?
That I got a chance to say I'm sorry and to say goodbye
Has your
life changed specifically as a result of your experience?
If Yes or Uncertain, describe how. (For example: Has the
experience affected your relationships? Daily life? Religious practices etc.?
Career choices?)
No
Did you
have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the
experience?
The sex of my unborn child
Did the
experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife,
God, etc.?
Yes
That there is some sort of life after death
"Death
Compacts" are when two or more living people promise among themselves that
whoever dies first will try to contact the other(s). Have ever made such a
compact?
Yes
I told my family that if anything ever happens to me, I will watch over them and
make sure they are okay
Did you
observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that
could be verified later?
Yes
I had an ultrasound 2 weeks later and it was confirmed that I was pregnant
with a boy. My son was born on 8-20-01
What emotions did you experience following your experience? Happiness
Was the
experience witnessed or experienced by others?
Yes
When I have these type of dreams, my husband tells me that I wake up screaming
and yelling. Many times, I do not remember the yelling and screaming, but I do
remember the events.
Did you
have any sense of altered space or time?
No
Did you
have a sense of knowing special knowledge, universal order and/or
purpose?
No
Did you
become aware of future events?
Yes
I knew the sex of my unborn child
Did you
have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience you
did not have prior to the experience?
Yes
Did you
experience a separation of consciousness from your body?
No
Did
you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?
Yes
He introduced me to different people, like ""new friends"" he had made
Did you
see a light?
No
Did
any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location
described above?
No
Have you
shared this experience with others?
Yes
I told Mike's widow and she was just happy for me to have that chance to
communicate with him
Have you
shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web
site?
No
Is there
anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?
No
Were
there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the
experience?
Uncertain
I am currently taking Lexapro for anxiety/depression, but at the times of these
experiences, I was under no medication
Following
the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or
substances which reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you
ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other
spiritual event?
No
Did the questions asked and information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your experience? Yes