Barbara S's
ADC
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experience #1: I was sleeping and had a short dream that I was holding him as I had in the mortuary. I said to him "It feels so good to hold you even if it is in a dream" he responded "I think I've put on weight"
experience #2: My 2 oldest children were coming home for the weekend so all 7 of us could be together for the first anniversary of Quentin's death. My daughter came running in and said "mom you gotta see this you won't believe it" We all went outside to see approximately 150-200 butterflies all over the yard - in the trees, bushes, grass, on the cars, flying around... just EVERYWHERE! Quentin was there too to make it a full 8.
experience #3: My husband had left for work early and I was still laying in bed because I was recovering from surgery. I felt someone climb into the bed on his side, but I couldn't see anyone because of the pillow in the middle proping my arm up. Thinking it was my son getting up for work I said "hey baby" but sat up to look when there was no answer. Then I heard someone under the bed. I said "very funny, if you're going to sneak up on me you'll need to be a little less noisy" Then I felt someone poke me through the mattress and then under the pillows. I bent to look under the bed and when I didn't see anyone I realized we are on two sets of box springs no one could poke through that. I went into my son's room and he was sound asleep. It was Quentin playing jokes on me again.
He has done this before... I was dozing on the sofa when I hear him say "BOO" as he often did to scare me. I jumped awake and looked around for him. Another time I swear I heard him say "hi mom" as he ran past my bedroom.
Quentin
was known for his mischievous grin and playing good natured jokes on people.
Degree of bereavement
for deceased immediately prior to the experience:
Severe sadness and/or grief
feelings
After your experience, did
you consider the contents of your experience:
Wonderful
Have you had multiple
experiences? Yes
several
Was this experience difficult
to express in words?
No
Did you ONLY sense an
awareness of presence of the deceased without actually seeing, hearing, feeling
or smelling them?
No
Did you hear the deceased or
hear something associated with the deceased?
Yes
Describe what you
heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:
His voice. He had a difficult
time pronouncing "r" sounds. His voice is distinctive. I can still hear it in
my mind.
"I think
I've put on weight!" a matter of fact statement
Did the voice or
sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not
hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?
he was looking right at me
speaking as I held him. His head was normal, as well.
If you heard a
voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the
deceased made when they were alive?
exactly the same... inflection and
tone, etc.
Is there any
possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
NO WAY
Was there any
possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?
NOPE
Did you feel a touch or
experience any physical contact from the deceased?
Yes
I was holding him on my lap. I
felt his weight on my lap and his girth in my arms. I stroked his face and hair
and his head where it had been pieced back together
Was the touch
familiar or unfamiliar?
I
was holding him and he was warm... not cold like at the mortuary
Was anything
communicated by the touch?
a hug, love
Is there any
possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
nothing else was around. I don't
recall any kind of surrounding at all.
Did you see the
deceased?
Yes
pale like at the mortuary
except his head was closer to normal
How clearly did
the deceased appear?
solid
How much of the
deceased did you see?
his whole body He was on my lap
Did the deceased
appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?
same
How healthy did
the deceased appear to be?
head was not cracked and glued
together, eyes were not sunken in
Is there any
possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings
at the time of your experience?
no
Did you smell a distinct
smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?
No
Was the beginning and end of
the experience gradual or more sudden?
it was there and then it
wasn't
Could you sense the emotions
or mood of the deceased?
Yes
matter-of-fact typical of him
Did the deceased give you
information you did not previously know?
no
How do you currently view the
reality of your experience?
Experience was definitely real
Please explain why
you view the reality of your experience as real or not real:
None of these experience were
expected.
#1 was a dream, but It was so like him and if it wasn't real I would think he would say something more profound. Plus, the fact that I knew it was a dream leads me to believe it was a visit.
#2 involved nature and was witnessed by my entire family. unfortunately we didn't get pictures. However, we've had several other experiences with butterflies and dragonflies that are bizarre.
#3 I was
wide awake
Was the experience
dream like in any way?
No
Describe in detail your
feelings/emotions during the experience:
happy, sad, wonder, grief,
longing, surprise, love, a whole array of emotion all mixed together.
Was there any emotional
healing in any way following the experience?
Yes
It reassured me that he is
around us and watching.
What was the best and worst
part of your experience?
The best was holding Quentin in my
arms again. The worst is that I haven't had a similar thing like that since. I
have heard him and seen his face or felt his presence, but not felt his body.
Has your life changed
specifically as a result of your experience?
No
Did you have any changes
of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?
No Did
the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death,
afterlife, God, etc.?
Yes confirmation
Death Compacts
are when two or more living people promise among themselves that whoever dies
first will try to contact the other(s). Have you ever made such a compact?
No
Did you observe or hear
anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be
verified later?
No
What emotions did you feel
during the experience?
happy, sad, wonder, grief,
longing, surprise, love, a whole array of emotion all mixed together.
Was the experience witnessed
or experienced by others?
Yes
Yes to # 2 only
no to #1
and #3
Have you shared this
experience with others?
Yes
Some people say "I believe that stuff" or the like. Some tell of similar things
that happened to them. Some just smile and walk away. Some ask more about it.
Have you shared this
experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?
Yes
I read the book "Hello From
Heaven" and that's how I found the www.after-death.com site. I posted messages
there for a bit then the computer went belly up. Also Rainbow Bridge with Ken
Prather.
Is there anything else you
would like to add regarding your experience?
I am very very interested in
learning more about this. I would like to try some past life regression to see
if Quentin and I were in a previous life together. I would also like to learn
about any other techniques you may have to enhance my mind and spirit so I can
contact him some more, but more importantly my dad. I have only had one dream
about him since he passed (2 days after Quentin). So many times I want his
advice. If you ever need subjects for studies... please call me.
Were there any associated
medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?
Uncertain
I do take several medications,
but these were definitely not med-induced
Following the experience, have
you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which
reproduced any part of the experience?
No
Did you ever in your life have
a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?
No
Did the questions asked and
information you provided accurately and comprehensively describe your
experience?
Yes
a lot of repetition