I was going through a tough stage/events in my life. I was sad I could not turn to her for advice or just a shoulder to lean on. 

My mother showed up in a dream, looking alive as she had when she was alive. The background behind her was black with no other figures or designs, total blackness. She had a medium blue dress on which had flowers on it. I remembered her wearing that dress when she was younger and in much better health. Telepathically she kept saying things like " you can come with me if you want to" "it's okay, you can come" she held out her hand to me the entire time while she spoke to me, she said this over and over. I wanted to go with her so badly and be with her but was afraid. She kept reassuring me over and over with her out stretched arm and hand to me. 

I finally could resist no more and  grabbed her hand. We both were happy, we were reconnected. But something made me look down at our hands. I saw my hand slowly turning to a skeleton. That really frightened me and I whipped my hand away from hers. I felt like I would have to die to be with her. That was asking me to do too much and way beyond my comfort zone to be with her. 

After I pulled my hand away from hers, she kept saying things such as "it's okay, you don't have to come now." "Really, it's okay, you don't have to come". "I understand, you can always come at a later time." "Really it is okay." And with that she slowly dematerialized and faded away right in front of me and the dream ended.  I was upset at leaving her and not going but was also very confused. It is a dream that has haunted me since.

Was the experience difficult to express in words?     Uncertain  

Did you hear the deceased or hear something associated with the deceased?   No comment   

Describe what you heard, how clearly you heard it and what was communicated:     Response was telepathic as her lips did not move, I mentioned in the description if my experience what was said  

Did the voice or sound seem to originate externally or outside of you, inside you, or did you not hear a voice or sound, but had a sense of knowing what was communicated?   Telepathic 

If you heard a voice or sound, was it similar or dissimilar from the voice or sound the deceased made when they were alive?     No sounds     

Is there any possibility what you heard was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?   No  

Was there any possible impairment to your hearing at the time of the experience?   Yes and I sleep with hearing aids that can hear a pin drop but did not have them at the time if the dream that I remember.

Did you feel a touch or experience any physical contact from the deceased?   Yes  

Describe where and how you were touched:     We grabbed each other's hand,she was reaching out to me

Was the touch familiar or unfamiliar?   Yes, it felt like she dud when zi was alive,  

Was anything communicated by the touch?   Not sure of question, please refer to my experience of this dream for these answers .

Is there any possibility what you felt was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?   Absolutely not.

Did you see the deceased?   Yes    As mentioned above, she looked like I remember her but younger, 39-59's versus being ill and 70.

How clearly did the deceased appear?   Solid like a person.

How much of the deceased did you see?    All of her, I believe.

Did the deceased appear or not appear to be the age at which they died?   She appeared younger.

How healthy did the deceased appear to be?    Very healthy and happy compared to just before her death.

Is there any possibility what you saw was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?    Absolutely not.

Did you smell a distinct smell, scent, fragrance or odor associated with the deceased?    No   

Was the smell, scent, fragrance or odor familiar?    N//A

Was anything communicated by the smell?    N//A

Is there any possibility that the smell, scent, fragrance or odor was from any other source present in the surroundings at the time of your experience?    N//A

Could you sense the emotions or mood of the deceased?   Yes     Concern for me and wanting me with her.

Did the deceased give you information you did not previously know?   No.

How do you currently view the reality of your experience?    Experience was definitely real    Just the vividness and clarity of the scene and sight of her, no different than seeing her in person before she died. Nothing about her, whether the way she looked, how she spoke and so on was the same as when she was alive.

Was the experience dream like in any way?    No   

Was there any emotional healing in any way following the experience?    No   

What was the best and worst part of your experience?    Best was seeing her, worst was having to let go of her hand and not go with her.

Has your life changed specifically as a result of your experience?    No        

Did you have any changes of attitudes or beliefs following the experience?    Yes    Confusion over why the dream happened and it's content.

Did the experience give you any spiritual understandings such as life, death, afterlife, God, etc.?    No    

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?   No

Was the experience witnessed or experienced by others?    No   

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?       No   

Did you have a sense of knowing, special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?        Uncertain   

Did you become aware of future events?           Uncertain   

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience that you did not have prior to the experience?     No   

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?    No   

Did you meet or see any other beings other than the deceased?    No   

Did you see a light?    No   

Did any part of your experience seem to occur in a place other than the location described above?   Uncertain    I don't even know where this took place besides in a dream, whether she came down to my world or vice versa.

Have you shared this experience with others?    Yes    Very surprised, shock, amazement

Have you shared this experience formally or informally with any other researcher or web site?    No   

Is there anything else you would like to add regarding your experience?    I would like to know why I would have a dream like this and then never any further contact?

Were there any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience?    No   

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?   No   

Did you ever in your life have a near-death experience, out of body experience or other spiritual event?      No